Post # 1
My family is Cantonese and FI’s is mainland Chinese and Taiwanese. He said his side of the family has never done a tea ceremony at the wedding so he’s not into it. Of course, my parents would like to have one. Does anyone know if the tea ceremony is specific to Hong Kong/Cantonese tradition? All this time I thought it was all Chinese.
Post # 3
I don’t know for certain, but I really don’t think it’s specific to Cantonese tradition. I’d insist upon this though – it’s important to your parents, it doesn’t really cost anything, and unless it’s somehow physically difficult for your SO to perform, it’s a reasonable request!
Post # 4
I am as American as they come (that is – a little bit of this, a little bit of that, pale as can be). My husband is Taiwanese. We had a tea ceremony. It was VERY important to his mother. My parents thought it was cool, too.
We did ours right after everyone was seated for dinner – my brother explained what was going on a little while his brother held the tea service and we spent, like, 5 min doing the tea ceremony in front of everyone.
If his family isn’t into it maybe you could do it before the wedding in a more private place? That’s more tradional, anyway, right? We just wanted to share with everyone, and I think my Mother-In-Law secretly enjoyed her few minutes in the spotlight.