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Chinese Wedding Ettiquette

posted 3 years ago in Beehive
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    superstar    April 2009   Bay Area

    In the Chinese culture: Is it proper to type in PINK?  I heard you can't use Red Ink(?) is this true?

    what about green?

     
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    JCM9608    September 6, 2008  

    superstar,

    I have heard that it is the other way around..Red is reserved for a bride getting married for the first time and pink is for anything after the first...

    ..So if it is your first time getting married, you are not supposed to use pink. My aunt is emphasizing this. Gah!

     
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    MissBlueBear    March 2008   New York

    I had no idea about this...but then again my invites were done in gold ink....

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    adela    8/9/08   Philadelphia, PA

    You should not use red on white as it is perceived as a death threat.  Red on ivory would be fine...I would suggest staying away from white all together (except for your gown).  No white flowers, no white in your hair...these are all the things I have been warned about from my superstitious Chinese family members.  But, I've seen Chinese brides on here have white in their bouquets and hair which made me gasp, but it doesn't seem like anything bad has happened to them as a result :)

     
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    ladysu    9.1.2007   Chicago

    Mine was gold ink on red.  I have also seen gold ink on pink.

     
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    catsmeow       Chicago

    Oh wow. Very complicated! I read on The Knot about pink/red as wedding colors and themes, but we haven't even gotten to invites! Yikes!

    I'm white, but my fiance is Chinese-American, and I'm not sure yet whether I'm getting a red dress- I thought this was customary. What's the word? If white is the color of death, then why would Chinese (American) brides wear white? Help!

     
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    Yach    10/23/07   CT

    My grandparents have told me to never write a name in red.  According to superstition, that shortens their life - something about linking blood and a person's name.  So yes, you can type all the information you want in pink or red...just not your names (if you are concerned about old-fashioned Asian tales). 

     
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    ladysu    9.1.2007   Chicago

    For me - I had the traditional white dress for my American ceremony and reception but for the tea ceremony, I wore my mother's qipao which was in shades of purple and blue.  For the Chinese reception, I had a red and gold phoenix qipao.

     

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    peihan17      

    @catsmeow-

    Typically, if someone/couple is a combination of cultures, and there are conflicting traditions, they would just pick one.  So, if a bride was Chinese-American, and brides often wear white here, but not usually in China, she could choose to follow either tradition.  So you don't necessarily have to wear a red dress, just because your groom is Chinese.

    I'm Chinese-American, my husband is American, and my dress was blue.  So take anything I say with a grain of salt Chinese Wedding Ettiquette :  wedding Icon Wink

    Sorry for the hijack, but I don't know anything more about the original question than has already been said

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