Post # 1
My fiancee is Chinese and our reception is Chinese-themed (wedding banquet, etc.). I’m looking for a favor for my reception that is Chinese and fits our budget (one dollar per favor). Does anyone have any suggestions? Chopsticks were an obvious choice… but they can be pretty expensive. Another thought was to put something in the traditional red envelopes. Can you help me out? 🙂
Post # 3
Well, you could do chop sticks, but at the same time, if half your wedding guests are Chinese, they probably already have more chop sticks than you know.
Don’t do the red envelope thing unless you’re giving out money. That’s what their for and if that’s not what you’re putting in there, the elders may find it distasteful.
Is your wedding chinese THEMED or is it just a chinese wedding? There’s a big difference, I feel. Are you having red+gold as your colors and you’re wearing a cheongsam and you’ve got like dragons (or rabbits this year!) hanging from the ceilling? Or are you just having a traditional chinese wedding and banquet?
If you’re having a chinese THEMED wedding, then try something maybe zodiac-y or fortune-cookie-y. Those are stereotypically asian, but would fit in with your theme.
If you’re having a chinese wedding/banquet, just find something nice that you like! Your favors don’t have to be Chinese-y! Make them something nice that people will keep around and use. Asians appreciate function over anything! 😛
I’m Chinese and sometimes find it uncomfortable when someone is trying be Chinese when they’re not (i.e. white celebrities wearing traditional dresses at awards shows), but since you are entering a Chinese family, it will be more appropriate for you. But still, don’t go over board. Sometimes *I* do and say things that I think are fun and Chinese-y and my parents definitely don’t laugh or find it entertaining.
I’m not putting you down at all, I just want you to have a beautiful wedding! And old chinese people, especially old chinese aunties, can be really traditional and opinionated! And you don’t want to open that can of worms. 😛
Post # 4
Thanks for the input! It’s kind of a half-half wedding – Catholic ceremony with a wedding banquet at a Chinese restaurant with very traditional food, but that’s about it – his parents are very religious and feel that a lot of the Chinese wedding traditions are too “pagan”, unfortunately… (and yes, his parents are Chinese!)
However, I’m definitely trying to stay away from the more stereotypical stuff (like zodiac and dragons). My fiancee and family have told me that the favors really don’t have to be Chinese, but I also want it to go with the overall atmosphere…
Also, I really hate kitschy wedding favors like magnets or matchbooks!
Post # 5
Mrs. Hot Cocoa gave these as favors-ordered from a company in Hong Kong-$1.25 pair
Post # 6
Those keychains are so cute!
For all the Chinese banquet type dinner receptions I’ve gone to the favors have simply been 2 or 3 piece of some kind of candy like the lindt truffles. That’s all I think Asians expect, I’m not sure how Americans view that for a favor.
Post # 7
Well, personally, 90% of the favors I’ve favors I’ve received (from Asian or American weddings) were the kitchy type wedding favors, and I don’t even know if I have them anymore. And for goodness sake, please don’t give a paper weight!! I have so many paper weights with someone else’s name and wedding date on it!
And to be honest, Chinese weddings don’t have a Chinese atmosphere. Oddly enough. 😛 So just pick something that you want. I love the idea of chocolates! But I love chocolate. I like petit fours! 😛 Just don’t make it white or black and you’ll be all set!
Post # 8
A nice edible favor would be double happiness chocolates.
Post # 9
@julies1949, those are great! where can i find those?
Post # 10
Those are DARLING!! Just make sure no one’s allergic to red-40.
Post # 11
They are made locally to me at Marco Ropke Patisserie in Richmond, B. C
You can contact the chef at [email protected]
I am sure your local chocolatier could make them if you showed them a picture.
Post # 12
@ciounoi: I’ve never seen Chinese favors given to guests…only the other way around (money).
You could do a clothing change into traditional Chinese wedding garb partway through the reception. I’d leap at the chance to do wear more beautiful clothes.
Ask your FMIL what she’d like to see you share with her family.
Post # 13
My FI and I will give chinese favors.
We bought this:
A pair of mini shoes (keychain) that means harmony in Chinese (we only bought the shoes, excluding the transparent package bag and the name tag)
We also bought double happiness wedding box
Other option we saw but didn’t choose: (coasters)
Total cost we spent:
Shoes: $1.15 per pair (including postage)
Box: $0.29 per each (including postage)
Total cost: $1.44 per person!
Post # 14
I got these for favors for my wedding. http://www.beau-coup.com/fortunecookie_placecardholders.htm
Post # 15
big_monchhichi , those boxes are beautiful! Do you have a link?
Post # 16
I ordered personalized fortune cookies from fancyfortunecookies.com. They were .40 each for the vanilla ones so you could package 2 per person for a favor? Or do the fancier chocolate dipped ones?