Post # 1
I have a (very) minor dilemma, and I’m hoping to get some opinions on this from some other perspectives.
I’m going to be a bridesmaid in my FSIL’s wedding this coming August. It’s a late August (almost September) wedding, to be held at a beautiful campground on the south shore in Massachusetts. It’s a semi-destination wedding; I live outside Boston but it’s a couple hours to get to the venue and we’ll be staying overnight at least one night.
The bride has asked her maids (there are 3 of us) to wear dresses in warm greens, yellows, oranges; the dress is of our own choosing except it has to be at least one of those colors, which is totally fine. Part of the problem is that I don’t usually wear colors at all, and when I do, I exclusively wear cooler colors because that’s what works with my own coloring. So I probably won’t wear the dress again–fine. I bought a JCrew dress on sale and it’s not my favorite but it is surprisingly cute given the color. I probably won’t wear it again, but it will be fine for one day and I won’t look stupid in her photos, so I’m happy about that! It wasn’t terribly expensive.
The real dilemma is in the shoes. I love shoes! I know the bride does NOT; she’s just not into that kind of thing. I don’t want to wear something wow and make people uncomfortable, and I definitely don’t want to be the center of attention. I also want to wear shoes that I WILL love to wear again, though, so I definitely want something closer to my taste than the dress is.
If I get a beige/nude sandal, can I wear it with greys and blacks later? Would you be upset, as a bride, if your maids wore crazy shoes with cocktail-length dresses (the shoes will def. show)?
I’m leaning towards these:
This is the dress:
Sorry this is so long!
Anyway–any other suggestions? Thoughts? Opinions?
I’m not in a hurry; again, the wedding isn’t for half a year, but I’d like to show her I’m enthused about being in the wedding since we haven’t always gotten along and we’re really working on it.
Post # 3
I would wear it with black after the wedding, but I’m really bad at matching things, so you shouldn’t put too much stock in that advice :).
However, I think they’re really cute! Just to play nice, maybe you should show them to your FSIL and just ask if she thinks they’re okay. You don’t have to, she told you to pick your own shoes, but I think it would make her feel good and it will let her know you’re excited/planning :).
Post # 4
I def dont think she is the kind of bride who will care about the shoes esp given the freedom of choosing the dresses yourselves. I think those shoes will look nice with those dress and you could wear them again with black (although I wouldn’t wear them with grey pants personally). Just show her before you buy them and tell her you really like these shoes but don’t want to buy them unless she is ok with you wearing them for her wedding. I dont think you can outdo the bride no matter what your shoes look like.
Post # 5
I think nude shoes are great, especially with that green dress. I loooove my pairs of nude shoes. They’re very versatile and fashionable (at the moment). And I don’t think the shoes you posted are crazy at all! They’re very nice, and you would definitely be able to wear them again. I thought you were going to say you have some black studded ankle boots you wanted to wear. haha. I would be a little concerned wearing those shoes to a campground though. I would hate to ruin a nice pair of shoes in the dirt!
Post # 6
i would just ask her.
is the dress darker in person than it looks in the photo? it looks pretty bright, and i don’t like the nude shoes with that shade of green.
Post # 7
@kitzy: The dress is the color of a grassy field in the summer–lightly bronzed by the sun and maybe not enough rain, but still a fairly bright green.
What color shoe would you wear? I am very open to considering other options.
And yes, I am a little concerned about ruining a pricey shoe in a dusty campground, but the girly girl in me can’t resist a heel. I mean…it’s a wedding! I’ll just have to be careful around the campgrounds and mostly wear the heels in the lodge (where the wedding itself and reception will take place–so we’re not dancing on dirt, just walking around in it).
Post # 8
@BunnyBrideToBe: silver would look great with that dress, and silver shoes are definitely rewearable (i have 2 pairs of silver flats i wear all the time)
Post # 9
Ask the bride! She’ll probably say she doesn’t care. I like the shoes, but I don’t think you’d be limited to a nude color- you could go for black or a muted gold. Maybe I’m getting too crazy here though 🙂 And its a pretty dress- I’m glad you found one that wasn’t expensive!
Post # 10
I love the shoes, and its a nude/neutral, so you can wear them with pretty much anything in the future, including other neutrals!
I think your best bet would be to pick almost any style of shoes in a neutral or metallic- black, nude, silver, or grey would all work. If your friend isn’t really a shoe person, she will probably barely notice what you are rocking on your feet. In fact, the people who will notice are women who are also into shoes… so have fun with it!
Post # 11
I personally don’t think that the shoes go that well with the dress. but internet differs from in person!
Post # 12
@yearns4god: Hmmm…I haven’t seen the shoes in person, actually. What would you pick? Any suggestions?
I am still toying with a pewter shoe but I haven’t seen anything I love in that color. I’m trying to avoid metallics since I can’t see myself wearing them with my regular wardrobe but if I have to go silver, I will. I probably wouldn’t rewear bronze/gold so I have to stay away from those even though I think bronze would go well. I have almost pink skin and bronze/gold/yellow just won’t work 🙁 I wish!
Post # 13
Your best bet is to ask the bride … that’s your safest option.
Post # 14
Hi new bee here and stumbled across this thread….I had long admired those exact shoes on piperlime until I saw them in person. My cousin actually had all of her bridesmaids wear them and it was sort of a disaster. It was an outdoor wedding …. and 4 inch heels + grassy hilly aisle… prob a bad choice but regardless the look was not as “classy” as I had anticipated them being. The dresses were also short tight strapless cocktail dresses so I’m not sure that helped… but they didn’t give the appearance I was expecting.. I hope that helps a bit.
Post # 15
I know this is almost a year ago, but can I ask which campground the wedding was held at?? I live on the southshore and am going crazy trying to find a “classy” campground for our wedding. Thanks in advance for any info!!!