I don’t like HUGE surprises, or public displays…
(a Flash Mob, Jumbo Tron etc, wouldn’t be my style at all)
So for me, given your choice… I’d rather know that it was happening on an upcoming vacation.
That said, both times I’ve been engaged / married, I knew it was coming. As we had talked about marriage a lot beforehand.
With my Ex it was the last year of Uni, he bought me a Promise Ring, and we made plans for my real ring at the end of our first summer after Graduation once we had got settled into our first jobs… In the end it was how it went down… a late August trip to a Jewellery Store to pick out the Ring. No big proposal.
With Mr TTR we exchanged our UPDATED LIFE PLANS at 6 years of Dating. And I told him I wanted to be married within the year… by the end of 2012.
He told me he’d do it on his terms, and in his own way. As I understand how important Proposals are to men, that was ok with me. The only thing I asked was that he NOT SURPRISE me with a ring… that we would choose one together when the time was right.
So essentially, I didn’t know if we’d be going ring shopping or there would be a Proposal without a ring.
I was a Waiting Bee, so I get that uneasiness… but at the same time, I am a confident woman, and just got on with my life… and tried to put the whole thing aside (and I certainly didn’t mention it). I lived each day as any other and savoured what we had in the moment.
In the end, he proposed to me sans ring, on our Easter Vacation in Myrtle Beach. It was a HUGE surprise in that he caught me off guard.
BUT he totally respected my wishes and it wasn’t over the top… he didn’t even get down on bended knee… he just told me we should get married the next time we were in town, and he was serious. He even had some of the details worked out. It was awesome. I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way.
Hope this helps,