Post # 1
Bees, I have been engaged for a few months now and we are doing loads of planning.
I keep thinking of little things I need to look up, for example, the processional order. I found a website with it on and while reading it, I was all choked up.
I am so emotional about everything to do with marrying my FI.
I’m from a pretty emotionally-able family, and know my dad will be crying on the day (which will set mum off). How do you get it out of my system before the big day, and generally? I’m driving myself crazy wanting to cry with hapiness about everything.
Btw, this has been since we’ve been engaged and not just during TOM (sorry TMI!)
Post # 2
RhianfaHW: LOL I’m so glad you posted this b/c I was driving home from work yesterday in rush hour, and our song came on. I STARTED BAWLING! If I’m crying in the car, how am I going to dance with him to it in 3 weeks???
My mom cried at the florist when I was talking to the floral designer about putting my dad’s detective badge on the handle of my bouquet (passed away when I was young, mom is giving me away).
I have no idea how I’m getting through it, either. Though I’ve heard from my mom and other bride friends that you’re almost on auto-pilot when it’s happening. A part of me hopes that’s true so I can get through stuff and keep my makeup in tact!!
Post # 3
RhianfaHW: OH girl I was the same way…one day i sat down with BFF and cried it out like a crazy woman….and then it was better on the day of….I suprisingly did great until FI and I were exchanging our vows and when our pastor was reading the questions he had us awnser in seperate pre-marital sessions…and i was tearing pretty badly which makes me make this aweful face….but i suprisingly held it together better then DH….so i say grab a friend a glass of wine and let it go….lol it helped me…
Post # 4
I was looking at first reveal photos of couples I don’t even know and I just started bawling.
I have no advice except to say get water proof mascara and don’t squint your eyes while you’re crying, just dab lightly as needed. Helps keep eye makeup in place. #ProCryingTip
Post # 5
Ok I voted sit down with the wine, but there is NO getting over it really! I cried throughout. Every single time I thought about any number of things
1. The processional music
2. Seeing DH for the first time
3. Dancing with my dad (and we didn’t do a slow dance!)
I teared up.
I cried ALL up over the wedding day. I cried during our first look. I cried coming down the aisle. My dad cried. My husband cried. Then everyone cried during our first dance because my brother sang for it.
1. Not trying to stop yourself, it’ll only make ugly faces
2. Waterproof eyeliner, mascara, and BLUSH (this is key, so you don’t get tracks, I used Tarte amazonian clay)
3. Not worrying about it, I think it was ok that we cried!
Post # 6
RhianfaHW: I get like this. I detach emotionally from everything at work, so I seem to be over emotional in my day to day life (I can cry at anything touching… effing commercials get me going some times.) I can feel the tears when I’m talking to someone about him (not all the time – but when the Reverend asked me to describe him, our relationship, why I love him, how I know he loves me, etc I had to pause a couple of times because I was afraid I’d start doing the laugh-cry.) I am a happy crier. I always have been!
I just accept that I am going to cry on the day of. I nearly cried while reading our vows at our meeting with the Rev (we didn’t finish them, so despite what my FI claims, we didn’t get married in a Tim Horton’s!) My mum will bawl most of the day. She nearly cries anytime she talks about the wedding! She thinks my dad will cry. I don’t know. I’ve never seen him cry. If he cries, I’ll lose it! My sister is a stone heart, I don’t think she’ll cry. I think my FI will bawl like a baby. My sister and I have actually bet on it (and he knows this.)
I’ll deal with the tears, they will be of joy. 🙂 I won’t cry the whole day. I think once the vows are done I’ll be good until the speeches. I will likely cry then as well. And then it’ll be a party and I doubt there will be any tears.
This is just who I am, I accept it.
Post # 7
RhianfaHW: i was the same way…the entire 9 months i was engaged. the worst was when i sat down w/ the book i used to write our ceremony/vows from…i literally cried the entire 2 hours i spent reading through the options in the book…it was ridiculous. haha!!!
and then the day came…and i was SO happy and exited, i didn’t even cry at our wedding. we read our vows to one another…and i just smiled at my new husband the entire time. i couldn’t believe i wasn’t a blubbering mess after the previous 9 months of hysterics! lol
Post # 8
I got choked up over vows, but other than that, it was just like any other day.
If you cry, you cry, thats on you.
Post # 9
my friends had a bet on what time I would cry on my hen do! (Bachelorette party) they actually had put together a DVD that they played on the big screen with ppl from abroad and my first babysitter and my nieces and nephews and my dog! I bawled then my friend started crying. She set me off more! we’re having a very small wedding and my cryer friend will be there and she said she’s gonna be bawling which will set me off. I cried at my desk listening to songs my musician suggested I’ve cried picking readings! It’s pretty much a given I’m gonna cry! I once started crying in a restaurant cos there was a little old man having a pot of tea on his own! I cry at adverts, makeover shows! I cry watching happy or sad things! Ha ha oh god I don’t have a good cry face either! I always shed a little year at weddings even when I don’t know the couple well! Hopefully I’ll be too nervous and distracted to cry.
Post # 10
I would also get very emotional during the planning process and cried over a lot of things (both significant and insignificant). I was sure I’d be a babbling brook the day of the wedding. But the only time I cried was when I opened my husband’s gift, which was an animation he made of our relationship. Luckily my make up artist was still there and able to touch me up! The rest of the day I was just so so happy, like deliriously high happy, that all I could do was smile and laugh. My heart was full. It surprised me! Maybe the same thing will happen for you!