Post # 1
Do any brides-to-be or newlyweds have any advice on choosing your wedding date? We’ve always wanted a May wedding, but I think that’s impractical considering the complicated life circumstances we’ll encounter in May 2011 (namely, my FI’s graduation, moving far away for his postdoc, finding a new home, packing, and somehow fitting in a honeymoon and hopefully a graduation party for him).
I think there’s just way too much going on that month for us to be able to enjoy them all (but they should be fun because they’ll be exciting times!). I actually feel like even moving the wedding a month earlier (to April) is too close to our moving date. The only reason we’re not planning to move the date back farther would be the crappy Boston winter weather, but maybe we’ll have to make that sacrifice and risk snow!
So, did anyone have the experience of getting married and then graduating/moving/dealing with other big life events within a few weeks of each other? How did it work out for you? Would you do it again or advise against it? Was it easier than I’m expecting?
Or, what would you all do in our circumstances — plan for a lovely spring wedding, risking the stress and chance that you’ll be too busy to really enjoy it, or back it up to February or March, during your least-favorite season and risk snow and ice?
Post # 3
I haven’t experienced this myself, so I don’t have much advice about all the stuff going on. BUT my sister had a winter wedding and it was soooo beautiful. The pictures turned out amazing. You might want to consider it 🙂
Post # 4
Hmm.. you could always think about it as “embracing snow” instead of “risking snow”. Honestly though, I think that people who want to be at your wedding will find their way, rain or shine!
Post # 5
omg, yes. My husband was applying for med school, so we had the possibility of having to move anywhere in the country or stay. We were in Boston, the wedding was in St. Louis. It happened he ended up at Wash U in St Louis. But we had to move out June 30, drive a UHaul to St. Louis, get set up, finish final wedding set up, have wedding, honeymoon, start med school. Luckily we picked a dated that gave us enough time to do all that.
July in St. Louis was not my top choice for a wedding day. I was worried my in laws from Maine would be dying in 100 degree weather, but it was the coolest weekend of the summer. It worked out perfect weather wise, which was amazing. But it was a balencing act for sure.
Post # 6
When we got married this summer, we didn’t know that we were going to be moving until closer to the date of the wedding. That being said, it actually worked out pretty well to have it as sort of a wrap up and getting to see all of our friends before we moved. We did however have to postpone a honeymoon due to moving and the money situation but having it later doesn’t make it any less fun, it is pretty much just a vacation after all.
Post # 7
My FI is graduating in April this year. He’s going to grad school full time until then. For us to have the wedding in 2009 would have conflicted with his school schedule and we may not have been able to go on a honeymoon right away. Also, my mom is a bus driver and works weekends until summer. So for us, it made sense to have the wedding in the summer of 10.
Post # 8
Thanks for all your insight! Upon thinking about all of this, it did occur to me that I had let my/our desire for a spring wedding (full of flowers in the Boston gardens!) become more important than our need to have enough time to actually enjoy all of these events. It’s one of these times that I need to remember that our wedding, although very important, shouldn’t overshadow the other important parts of our lives. And in order to enjoy the wedding, it would be better to not be distracted by moving anxieties (and a job hunt for me!).
So, I think we will have to embrace the snow! Honestly, I’m more worried about the ice. Boston tends to ice over — the snow melts just enough to no longer be snow, and then it refreezes to a solid sheet of ice! And this happens all over the city (no exaggerations!), but since it’ll most likely be our last snowy winter for a while, we’ll just use our wedding to warm up the season.
Post # 9
I think “embracing the snow” sounds like your best bet 🙂 I always dreamt of an autumn wedding bc it’s when our city looks its best, but in the end we are having an early summer wedding in a totally different location! It feels so natural to be doing it this way now and I think it’s good to give yourselves lots of time around these events. It’s hard enough having Xmas around the corner for us let alone all the other stuff you’ve got on your plate 🙂