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I think you need to have a conversation that goes something like:
"FI, we are getting close to a make-or-break situation finding an officiant, since many are going to be booked up soon. Do you want to call your Aunt and ask her if she will have the honour of marrying us, or do we have to start hunting for someone else? I really like your Aunt and would love if she would do it, but I think you need to ask her."
I'd suggest you offer to ask her yourself!
"FI, the wedding is getting closer and closer. If you feel uncomfortable asking your aunt then I'd be happy to talk to her. We need to know so we can start looking elsewhere if she isn't willing. I'd love for her to be a part of the day in that way. It never hurts to ask, right?"
@Fluffy Mittens: I took your suggestion and he's going to ask her! Hurray! Thank you for helping me gently push my FH without sounding like the dreaded Bridezilla. 
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Hello, fellow bees! New bee here, so bear with me.
Here's the situation: it's six months until the Big Day. We'll be having a non-denominational ceremony, as our families have about four different religions between them. According to all the wedding planning sites, we ought to have an officiant chosen and booked by now. A few months ago, my FI suggested his aunt, who got one of those online certifications to marry one of her friends. I thought, "Hey, good idea! She knows us, knows our style and our story, why not?"
BUT every time I've brought it up ("are you gonna ask her? have you asked her?") he's hemmed and hawed and danced around the issue. Finally a few days ago he admitted she got the certification as "kind of a joke, kind of a favor for her friend" and so he's iffy about it.
I don't care about all that. If she's legally allowed to marry people, what does it matter if she originally got the certification as a joke? I'm totally comfortable with her, she's like family to me. Asking her would be so much easier than getting married by someone we barely know, going through all the interviewing, and paying the officiant. (Money is tight.)
What can I say to him to convince him that we should just ask her already? I want to be able to check this off my list and stop worrying about it.