(Closed) Choosing between friends… Advice Please!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i felt this way….it was 3 friends but although i love them all, one is clearly my closer friend than the others – i’ve known her the longest (and really became friends with the other two through her), i lived with her for a few years after college, i talk to her most every day. i went back and forth but in the end i asked just the one girl to be in my wedding. she was my 4th BP member and i didn’t want any more than that. when i did ask her she was SO touched that i felt terrible for ever considering not asking her. i think it was probably easier in my situation because there were two girls that got “left out” instead of one but i will say that neither of them even batted an eye about the whole thing and i think it seemed like a bigger deal in my head than it actually was. if you really want your one friend by your side, i think you should just ask her. it really does sound like the other one let you off the hook with her comments about wanting to come as a guest. i once made that same comment to an engaged friend who i really didn’t want to ask me to be a BM. (she asked anyways. i would have been happier if she didn’t. rude but the truth. we weren’t that close. don’t even talk now.)

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