(Closed) Choosing Bridesmaids?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have a sort of simular story. First you can have however many Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen you want they don’t have to be even, this is a personal choice. I made my half sisters, share the same dad, Jr BM’s so I have a Maid/Matron of Honor, Same mom and dad, three close friends, and my Future Sister-In-Law, and 2 Jr BM’s. Fiance only has Bridesmaid or Best Man, and 4 close friends.

ETA: You could also incorporate them in other ways. They could pass out programs, guest book attendant, bridal assistants, etc.

Post # 4
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - The Old Field Club

you can have whatever number you want- some people like having even parties, but for me it was more important to include special people/not make anyone feel left out.  I think you should do whatever makes you happy- it is hard when you have a difficult family situation, but I think there is no harm in including everyone.  in the end they are just in a bunch of pictures, and you can take pictures specifically with certain bridesmaids split up so they aren’t all in all of your pictures if you’d like….

Post # 6
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@sbottiani: Maybe use this as an opportunity to get to know them better? Talk with them, ask if they would be interested in doing a reading, giving out programs, etc. whatever ideas you have. it will make them included, and maybe give you guys a chance to get to know each other 🙂 

Post # 7
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Vandiver Inn

My personal opinion is that you can have as many BMs/GMs as you want or don’t want.. doesn’t have to be even! To reiterate what PP’s have said – you can always find a way to incorporate family/friends in other ways aside from being in the bridal party – ushers, a reading, etc.

Post # 8
126 posts
Blushing bee

I went to a wedding involving seven bms and three groomsmen. It didn’t look weird or uneven and their photos looked amazing 🙂 Don’t worry about things looking uneven.

I think if you make a fuss of your sisters on the day ie, have them get ready with you, get their hair (and makeup for the older ones) done together, they won’t feel left out in the ceremony. Perhaps you could invite them one one of your expiditions, like finding a dress or shoes?

At that age, I would have felt so important just being able to hang out with the bride beforehand!

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