- 3 years ago
I’m having an internal dilemma when trying to choose bridesmaids for my upcoming wedding (August 2014). Orignally I was just going to have my 2 sisters up there with me, but my fiance is having 4 groomsmen (his brother, his best high school friend, his best college friend, and my brother) and the uneven-ness of 2 to 4 bothers me (maybe I’m slightly OCD) I have a group of friends from middleschool/highschool (6 of us) and we have remained very close all throughout college to now (I have close college friends, but I still consider my friends from highschool my best friends). I want the numbers to be even (4 and 4) so with my 2 sisters I can only ask 2 of my group of friends. 2 of them still live close to me and we get together at least once a week, so I feel very close to them and I know that they would be around to help me with wedding plans, but I don’t know if it is inappropriate to just ask the 2 of them (they are also the 2 of the group who are closest to my fiance, simply due to the fact that they have been living close to me and so they have spent the most time with him). The other 3 all live in different states and I only ever see them around holidays. Plus I know they are all very busy (one with med school, one applying to grad schools, and one with a demanding new job). Regardless of if I chose them to be in the wedding party, I do still want the 2 friends who live near me to be involved in wedding planning (dress shopping, looking at decor, planning the bachelorette party, etc), especially since my fiance is across the country from me for school for the entire year preceding our wedding, so I’ll need the extra support. If they are going to be so involved helping me, however, I want to honor them by giving them a place in my wedding party. I feel bad expecting them to just help out without being in the wedding party.
Any advice? Is is ok to just ask 2 out of a group of 5 simply because of their proximity and availability (and because we hang out and talk the most at this point in my life)? I am nervous about breaking the news to the other 3 gals and having hurt feelings. I definitely don’t care enough about even numbers to lose a friendship.
Thanks in advance for any advice!!