- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014 - Church and Mansion on lake
I have 6 potential ladies.
2 of those ladies are definites, hands-down. My best friend being the Maid/Matron of Honor and one of my sisters being a bridesmaid.
But then there are issues.
For the 4 other ladies, I’m having a hard time deciding. I’ve been thinking about it alot and I’m trying to know how to choose what’s right.
Basically, I have 2 of my cousins, my other sister, and my one of my fiance’s friends who are potentials.
I’m close to one of my cousins, but she’s 17 years old. I think she’d like the whole process. But if I have her as a bridesmaid, I feel like I’d also have to have her sister. Why? Well, she will be 12 at the time of the wedding. Outside of this function, Mattie (12) is always left out of everything being the middle child. My aunt has 4 children and all of them have important roles in my wedding, flowergirl, ring bearer, and If taylor(17) is a bridesmaid, I don’t want Mattie to feel like she’s getting the butt of the situation like always.
The next dilemma is my other sister. Tarren is 17, she’ll be 19 at the time of the wedding. I’m kind of iffy about having her in the wedding because, for one, I moved out when she was 12 years old, and ever since then, we haven’t been close. She’s really all over the place, living with her boyfriend, not in school, I can barely reach her half the time online, and she has no phone number. I haven’t seen her in person for a year. I feel kind of obligated to have her in the wedding if all of the girl cousins and my other sister are bridesmaids.
The final person, regardless of whether she’s a groomsmaid or a bridesmaid, she will be in the wedding. She had a very small wedding and invited us, let us sit at her bridal table, and involved me in the planning, and even bought me a gift even though I wasn’t a bridesmaid, just to be nice. So no matter what, she’s gonna be on either of our sides.
Are there any jobs, any kind of honorary thing I can do for like my sister or something if I don’t want certain people to be maids?
Another reason I’m not just choosing all of them is because I don’t expect my younger sister to be able to afford bridesmaid items, the same going for my two younger cousins.