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Whoever you are closest with should be your maid of honor.
Since that's your friend, have her as MOH and your sister as... Bridesmaid of Honor? Or you could just have both if your sister will be upset about it.
Another suggestion:
If one of the possible MOHs are married, you can call her Matron of Honor (if it is ok) and the other Maid of Honor.
Think about it this way: who do you want planning the shower, the bachelorette? who knows you best? who will get everything right and plan things just way you'd want it? who do you want next to you on the most important day of your life?
if your friend will be a friend for life, you know the answer. just remember, sisters are sisters for life no matter what- and maybe two maids of honour is the right decision for you. it's your day girl, do what your heart wants to do!
I say have both as MOHs... I've been to weddings where there were 2 Matrons of Honor and it wasn't weird at all.
I think it depends on how your sister would react to not being your MOH... I voted both.
I feel you! My dilema was between my big sis and my lil sis. Finally I decided, they'll be my ONLY girls in my wedding party so that they are both equally important and the most important. (;
Both! I'm having both my sister (Matron) and my best friend (Maid) but I don't think there's anything wrong with two Maids of Honor! That's the beauty of it -- it's your day and you can do whatever you want!
I think you can have both. My sister and I were co-MOH for our best friend/roommate from college. It actually worked out well, we could split all the MOH duties/costs, so we were able to help our friend even more.
I say both. My cousin did this. Her sister was an automatic MOH but she also included my sister as MOH because she actually introduced my cousin to her now hubby. They can share and help out with all the duties.
I voted to have them both! When my closest friend got married she also was faced with this same situation. She asked us both to be MOH for her. I was just happy to be in the wedding and it didn't bother me at all to have you sister as a moh also. It was sort of hard to plan the shower with her sister, but thats a whole other story.
I voted for both as well! That way you don't strain the relationship between you and your sister, or your friend, and both can be involved.
The most diplomatic would be to have both. But I'm not sure it's necessary. I've been to a couple of weddings where the sister was a BM and the bff was the MOH. If you a pretty close to your sister, and it's a tough call, I would go with both. But if you aren't that close to your sister, and feel it's a standard obligation to have her as MOH, then I say just go with the friend.
When my best friend got married, her sister was her maid of honor. Were my feelings hurt? Absolutely not! Any friend worth her salt knows that sisters should be maid of honor - but best friends enjoy planning the bridal shower and bachelorette more. ;)
I'm in the same situation. My sister and I are not close. I chose my best friend over her as MOH and it was no big deal, I don't think she really expected to be MOH anyway.
ok i made the mistake of having two and had to demote one maid of honor to bridesmaid because the other did all the work. So ask yourself who is going to do the most stuff for you without complanning or bailing on you and still love you at the end of the wedding and that is the person you should pick.
I'm having both! At first my sister was a little upset, but she quickly go over it.
This sounds horrible, but who will do more? Who can you count on to organize a shower or a bachelorette party? If they are co-maids they can work together on it. It's a lot of work.
My vote is both, but if you do one, go with either blood or the one who will do more.
Who cares if you have one or two? Just use both... especially if your sis would be dissapointed you didn't ask her. One of my friends is doing just the same for her Sept wedding.
I had this dilemna, too, but I ended up having all three of my sisters as bridesmaids, and then chose my best friend to be my MOH
Sister or both but not just friend...honestly, I was my sister's MOH a few years ago (when I truly had no idea what I was doing) and her friend (whom she dubbed a BM) stepped in and did much of what I didn't know how to do... wish I would have been a better MOH, but that's not the point. :) Choose your sister and your friend will surely understand and she'll do what she needs to do to help ensure the success of your day! :)
I voted both. Being the sister who didn't even get asked to be in the wedding when I though we were very close, it's not worth causing your sister to hurt and wonder whats wrong with her. If you're torn just have both. I think that would be very nice and classy, not picking but choosing both.
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I need advice! I don't know whether to ask my sister to be my maid of honor or my best friend. I know asking my sister would be the right thing to do but I am way closer to my friend. Would it be weird to as them to be co-maid of honors?