Post # 1
I had a question and I’m going to post it here because I wasn’t sure where to post this question. I wanted to know how you engaged/married bees chose your wedding date. Did you just pick a date? Was there significance behind it, etc?
The reason I ask is because I’m finding all the potential dates that I’m liking are surrounding friends and family bdays, etc.
1st Choice – It’s 2 days after our cousins wedding date (although they’ve been married for 8 years now). We hang with them a lot though. Is it wrong to get married close to someone else’s anniversary?
This day is also a few days before my Grandmother’s bday.
2nd Choice – It’s a couple days after my sister’s birthday. Whom we also hang with a lot as well. Is it wrong to get married close to a relatives birthday?
I guess I’m coming up against wanting these particular dates for specific reasons but they seem to fall close to other peoples important dates. Am I making too much of this? Should I just choose a date that not really sentimental to me but far away from friends/family special days?
Post # 3
In the end, we ultimately had to choose a date that worked for us and just go with it. It was a little bit of a pain for our guests (middle of the week during the holidays), but Darling Husband was in the military at the time, so we really had little choice. Thankfully the day(29th) had some significance for us, so we still liked the day. Had our situation been different, we probably would have gone with a more sentimental date, even if it conflicted with other “dates” within in the family. DH’s is HUGE (think 20 aunts/uncles) so, there is no possible way we could avoid a date conflict considering he probably has 60 or so first cousins alone. Two of DH’s siblings have their anniversaries in our wedding month, so it’s kind of amusing.
In the end, go with a date that works for your and your schedule and is special to you. If you try to work around everyone’s birthdays, anniversaries, etc., it will just drive you crazy!
Post # 4
You are overthinking this. Either date is fine. Your cousin’s anniversary doesn’t matter and your sister will be able to have her birthday fun. It’s not like you are having the wedding ON her birthday.
As for how we chose our date. We haven’t set it in stone but we like the month of April because we started dating in April so it’s significant to us. The specific date we would like is FI’s late brother’s birthday (in April). He would like to honor him so if we can work it out with a venue that we like, that will be our date.
Post # 5
We wanted to get married in late April. Our venue only had April 9 and May 7 free, so we had them hold May 7 as a tentative date until we booked the church. The church was not available for May 7, so it became April 9.
Post # 6
We chose ours because it has both our birthdays in the date. Corny, but we both liked the corniness. 🙂
Post # 7
We got engaged on October 22, 2007 and hubs wanted to get married that day in 09, but it ended up being a Thursday so it was a no go. So we went for the saturday afterward, which was the 24th. Funny, cuz it ends up being hubs half birthday and we didn’t even realize it then! We had friends get married on the 3rd of the follwing year, and I think its cool that our dates are so close, we can celebrate anniversaries together!
I think you should ask the firends who are married, but chances are, they won’t care if your date is so close to theirs.
Post # 8
Go with a date that works for you… don’t worry about anniversaries and birthdays. We originally wanted to get married in Spring, 2012, but all of the dates were taken. There will always be someone’s birthday or something near a date. We would have had to have waited until July, which seemed so far away. We ended up choosing New Years Eve because so many family members will be around, and what better reason to celebrate (and of course… the venue we wanted was available!) When you start looking, you will see sometimes it is hard to get all of the vendors you want on a specific day, so just pick what works for you! 🙂
Post # 9
Totally agree with other posters. Our date is what was available in the season we wanted and it also happens to be my MOH’s birthday. So we’ll sing happy birthday to her at the reception 🙂
Post # 10
You can’t worry about all the other anniversaries/birthdays when planning your wedding! If that was the case in my huge family, I would never be able to get married!
We picked a date that worked best with my school/work schedule, and picked the time of year and day of the week we wanted. I wanted a Friday wedding because I think Saturday is ridiculously expensive, and it’s not worth the higher financial minimums or higher plate prices. My wedding will happen to be 3 days before my dad’s birthday, and my parent’s don’t care at all. It is also a week after my Aunt and Uncle’s anniversary and their daughter’s birthday. My other option would have been their actual anniversary/cousin’s bday, which we did avoid because they are the type of people who would have tried to turn my wedding all about them if it was the same day, and I want it to be my day!.
The only thing I tried to really avoid were official holiday weekends, like since my wedding is in June, we decided the weekend of Father’s Day was off limits.
Post # 11
We asked the venue we wanted to tell us their availability, and we chose our date from that list around the time of year we wanted.
Post # 12
I chose October because I wanted a fall wedding. I chose 22 because our dating anniversary is Sept 21.
Also, Canadian Thanksgiving falls second weekend/Monday in October & I didn’t want our guests to have to potentially travel two weekends in a row. Otherwise I would have gone with the 15th.
Post # 13
We chose our date because that is when our venue was available and when it worked for the majority of the people we wanted to come. Originally we had wanted to get married in October but then our venue was not available and was totally booked except for 2 weekends in August. We initially chose the 14th of August but then had some family who wouldnt have been able to make it that weekend so we changed it to the 21st.
Post # 14
I think it’s very sweet of you to try to take other people’s schedules into consideration. But it’s COMPLETELY acceptable for your wedding to be close to family members’ anniversaries/birthdays. It would be one thing if it were two days after your cousin’s actual wedding, but for an anniversary – that’s a non-issue.
We chose ours very pragmatically. I’m in academia, so summer was the only season that I would have the time to have a wedding. I didn’t want it to be too hot, and I wanted to have the rest of the summer to relax, so we decided June. We picked two possible Saturdays in June, the 11th and 18th. We checked with our most important guests to see if those dates had conflicts. They did for the 11th but not the 18th, so I picked that. But then it turned out my dad’s 50th high school reunion was the weekend of the 18th, and it made him really sad not to be able to go. So we moved it to the 25th, checked with the caterer to be sure that would still work, and set it in stone.
Post # 15
Go with what date you want, if you start trying to pick your date around what works best for everyone else it will drive you insane.
We picked our date because its UT’s BYE week in football, we are getting married on Sunday so that doesn’t completely matter now but until we found out it was $1000 cheaper to get married on Sunday instead that was our reasoning for that weekend.
Post # 16
We chose our date because we wanted a spring wedding so it wouldn’t be too hot for a tented reception. We had to make it work around the NHRA racing schedule (FI races as a hobby) and we wanted plenty of time to plan. May 7th is mother’s day weekend this year, so it kinda sucks for our moms, but there’s never been a NHRA race on mother’s day weekend and the weather typically is nice enough for a tented reception.
I think you might be over thinking a bit. I think either date would be totally fine.