Post # 1
Earlier when we got engaged, I wanted to elope. I thought that it would be so romantice and less trouble. This idea got put aside to make our mothers happy.
Two weeks ago a fight happened between my mother and fiances family. My mother tried to suggest that children be baby sat at the reception venue or that they not be up the front. This was what I wanted as I did not want the children interrupting.
This was taken as an insult and that they were not welcome. My fiances sister hopped onto facebook and told my mother off and threw an insult at my family.
After this I told my fiance that I wanted to elope.
He made a compromise and said that we could elope but still have to orginal date as a commitment ceremony for his family to see. I liked this idea as I have family coming from the other side of Australia to see me.
I am worried that my fiance doesn’t really want to be eloped but I do not want my wedding day with an unapologetic sister in law :(.
Post # 3
When you announce that you’re eloping, your families are probably going to be upset and ask for an explanation. Are you going to be able to give that to them? If your response is “because SIL was rude on facebook,” I don’t think it will go over very well. Choose to elope for you, not as a reaction to a stupid argument.
Post # 4
@weddingbeenaomi: If you decide to elope it needs to be what you both want to do. You should ask yourselves if eloping is something you might regret later down the road. Before you make this big decision maybe you can make a pro/con list to help you sort it out. Good luck in your decision. We are eloping in less than a month and couldn’t be happier.
Post # 5
@AlwaysSunny: Agree with what you said.
But also your family might get upset that they are spending a lot of money to travel across the country now to see a committment ceremony and not a wedding!
Post # 6
My family is fine with it. My sister in law was not letting me have my say in my wedding day. I have spoken to my DF and he said he is exicted to elope with me. So I was worried for no reason 😀
Post # 7
We decided to elope to Greece, told everyone our plans, everyone was very supportive and we had an at home reception. A huge factor for our decision to elope was to avoid family dramas. We are still so thrilled with our decision and would not change a thing about our wedding. We are from Canberra, got married in Greece, had our at home reception in Sydney, FIs family from Perth. They all flew to SYD for the reception and it was a perfect perfect awesomely happy night. Big decision for you guys. Please do whatever makes YOU happy as a couple and not what makes everyone else happy around you. You will forever hold the most memories of your day. You will be the ones dreaming about your wedding day for months and years after its passed. You will be the one with the photos on your wall. It IS your day.
2 month anniversary today… lets reminisce 🙂 PICS
Our Reception 🙂 VERY PIC HEAVY !
Post # 8
“Choose to elope for you, not as a reaction to a stupid argument. “
Post # 9
I am all for eloping, but having a ceremony is the kind of the same as having a wedding when it comes to the stress of it all. Are they still going to want children to be aloud? I just fear that this would still cause stress and arguments among your family, plus telling them that you are eloping may bring on additional stress.
We are eloping and only 2 people know about it. Just works better for us to do it that way.
Post # 10
If you wanted to elope in the first place and you were only doing a wedding to make the moms happy, I see no reason why returning to the original plan after the families started squabbling isn’t completely justified.
I agree with the PPs that said not to specifically mention the sister’s FB comment; I would be honest though, to a degree, and just tell them that the wedding planning has become too contentious and stressful for you and FI. You don’t have to lay out the specifics; the people that have been causing problems will realize that the reason they aren’t getting what they wanted is their own fault. Once you’ve decided to elope and you’ve told them you’re eloping, stick to it.
As far as family coming from Australia, have you and your FI decided on a honeymoon yet? Maybe you could honeymoon someplace like Fiji and make a stop to visit family in Australia to save them the trouble and expense of making the trip?