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Hi bees, so I was just wondering does anyone want or are planning to get pregnant so their baby is born in a certain month? I know there are some months I prefer over others, but is it enough of a want to wait to TTC so that your baby will be born then (of course I know that pregnancy doesn't always occur when you want it to and babies come early/late sometimes) but I was just wondering what the other bees were thinking??
We are wanting ours to be born closer to the beginning of the year because they have an advantage when it comes to sports. I know....how selfish. But it's true, I was born in August and other players who were born in January usually were much more mature giving them that much more of advantage. We are aware that it may not happen that way, and will be thrilled with a healthy baby anytime of the year.
Both of my pregnancies were planned to have spring babies for a number of reasons.
I could take them outside for walks easily- something not easily done in winter. I didn't have to go through the final months of pregnancy during the hot summer months. They were neither the youngest nor the oldest in their school classes.
I did not plan... which is why I'm stupidly pregnant in the summer. At the time (and I'd do it again the same way) I just wanted to be pregnant, I didn't want to wait.
I was aiming for a Spring baby the first time... knowing that if it took a while I'd still hopefully be able to avoid the Christmas holidays. We got August :) I'll do the same thing next time too :)
When I started working at a children's hospital, all of these things (what season the baby is born, what gender, wanting them to be gifted, good at sports, etc.) ceased to matter. All I want now is a normal healthy baby.
Aaah if it were only that simple! We just decided when we were ready and I went off the pill. 5 months later....still TTC (after one miscarriage).
That said, I always wanted a spring baby - for selfish reasons - to not be hugely pregnant during summer, and also to have the summer off (maternity leave). At this rate, the earliest we could have a baby is end of March and that's IF we get pregnant this month (and it sticks). Which means I would end up with the summer off.
In terms of picking and choosing when to TTC, keep in mind that if you do have any difficulties conceiving (which you likely won't know until after you start), doctors typically want you to have tried for 12 months prior to any testing being done (if you're under 35). If you're only trying some months, that could be difficult.
If possible, I would like to avoid peak RSV season for the health of the baby, but I wouldn't delay TTC because the birth might fall within those (winter) months.
A few years ago my FSIL and I made a pact to not get pregnant (i.e. not bang) for the entire month of June to avoid a March baby. No joke, we have like 12 people with March birthdays in just FI's and my immediate family. Our wallets can't handle any more! But other than that, I never really thought about it. With that said, I just recently came around to the idea of even having a kid so I'm new to this whole thing. Give me a few months and I'll probably have a whole step by step plan. :)
as a wedding photographer, we'll plan for a dec-march baby so i can work as much as possible!
I didn't want a baby born in my birth month. Guess what? He's due 3 days after my birthday. #fail
You can't plan these things.
I would like to have a baby after DH is done with student teaching which means we can start TTC like.... NOW!!! :-) also I work retail and I would love to have the summer off which is our slow time.
So yes I put a lot of thinking of when I would love my baby to be due.
I really want an October baby mainly because it's my favorite month and the weather where i live is absolutely perfect... plus my favorite name for a girl is Autumn and it would be kinda odd to name a girl born in March Autumn :oP
Personally I don't care/didn't care what month the baby is born as long as he/she is healthy. Right now our due date is mid Nov which is okay with me
With number 2 we will. DS is born in september (australia's spring), FI is born in Ausgust (australia's winter) and I am born in January (australia's summer). We are wanting bub #2 to be born in the first half of the year in April or May (so it will be an autumn baby). That way all our birthdays will be spread out, but the downfall is being pregnant in the australian summer. Now i have said our plan I probably have jinxed it haha.
Well with our 2nd baby we wanted a october baby SOOO bad And our little bundle of joy was due october 25th great right. No she was born november 3rd. But november 3rd or october didnt really matter because my little one is now healthy and thats what matters!
@Lindsay05: You read that book too hey? We were listening to Outliers on audio on a plane and DH heard that babies born Jan-Mar had the best chance of becoming NHL hockey players due to the advantage of being most oldest/biggest throughout childhood, and he was SOLD.
I think he's mostly kidding, and we'll be happy with a healthy baby at any time, but it kind of gave us a "let's start trying next spring" target that we're happy with anyway.
Well, we've been TTC for 8 months now, so any birth month preference we may have had has flown out the window with the reality that it's just not as easy to get pregnant as we thought it would be. We don't care about the birth month, we just want a healthy baby. Last month I wanted a February baby. This month I want a March baby. Next month I'll want an April baby (even though given my cycles, it'd be due around my birthday--Happy Birthday to me!)
@winniewolf: Are you a teacher? My ideal timeline sounds similar...baby comes six to twelve weeks before the end of the school year, and maternity leave right into summer break! :-D
I actually never commented on the underlying thread. My goal is to get pregnant and carry/deliver a healthy baby. Ideally, it would be in the spring but I'll be happy and joyous whenever I deliver as would any new parent :)
I thought I would care, but now at 11 months of trying and facing fertility testing ... I couldn't care less when our baby is born, as long as we get to have one.
We're going to start TTC for a baby born in the spring or EARLY summer... merely because I live in South Texas and I do NOT want to be pregnant again through the HOT months! lol
@abbyful: AMEN! Month of birth is something so small in the bigger scheme of things that it doesn't cross my mind.
Ideally, we would prefer not to have baby in November or December because in those two months we have 7 birthdays and Christmas! But to be quite honest I would be happy with a healthy baby any month.
When we decided to start TTC we just kept going and never stopped when the month came up where the baby would be born in Nov/Dec. It wasn't worth it to skip two months of TTC in our book.
My husband really wants a Fall baby (we both have October birthdays), but I personally don't care. We are about to start trying, so if it happens right away, he'll just have to get over it. :)
I really wanted to try for a spring/ summer baby because we both have fall birthdays, our anniversary and not to mention the holidays all in 3-4 month time span. Not that I didn't want to share this time, just thought it'd be nice to have something to look forward to the rest of the year. Low and behold our first baby is due on Christmas! Not even the best planners can plan these things :)
I just wanted to avoid getting pregnant in March, so our child's birthday would never be lost in the Christmas and/or New Year's holidays.
It didn't matter to me. It took me a year to get pregnant, so at that point (especially freaking out about fertility testing my OBGYN suggested) I just wanted to be pregnant. I DID get my wish to be pregnant in the summer though. I'm excited to be wearing all these dresses instead of "real" clothes,LOL, but I didn't think things through. I can't cruise past 24wks and cruising is my favorite thing in the summer.LOL
Ironically, I'm due in September, which is the month with SO many birthdays in my family! I guess December was a fun month for a lot of parents.LMAO
As much as I know you can't really plan these things...
I would like to try to avoid getting pregnant in March so that our baby isn't born right around Christmas/New Years. I just figure that when we start TTC, we'll start in April or May so we'd have to be unsuccessful for a long time to get back to the month I'd like to avoid.
we didn't really care, but maybe we would've skipped one month to avoid a December baby...LO was born in August, so it was a hot summer, but at least he had some time to grow before flu season/cold weather...it worked out well even though I was a sweaty cow at the end.
We hoped for a spring/early summer baby and we ended up with what we hoped for even though it wasn't on purpose, we just got lucky.
@Miss Sapphire: Ha, I kind of had the same attitude! My boy ended up being born 2 days before my birthday, lol.
I like having DD in March. I wasn't trapped in the house during my maternity leave because the weather was so nice. (well the first 2 weeks it wasn't nice). I didn't like being pregnant during all of the holidays though, that sucked. But being pregnant kind of sucks no matter when it happens.
I thought about it and tried it. And then I miscarried, which was a big smack in the face to make me realize that I am not in control at all and can't plan these types of things. I am waiting to be able to try again, and if I got pregnant in August/September, I'd be giving birth in the Florida summer (hot!) and right around the time that all of my family has birthdays (sucks!). But if I am lucky to get pregnant and carry the baby to term, I will be elated and I now realize that is ALL that matters!
Ultimately we just want a healthy baby, too.. but we were secretly hoping for a Christmas baby and feel so blessed that it looks like we're getting our wish. I'm due 12/15/2011 :)
We were aiming for a May baby (so get pregnant in August) but started sooner in the event it took awhile. Welp, we got pregnant the first month so we'll be earlier than we wanted (due March 1), but we're TOTALLY fine with that!! More than fine with that actually, we're thrilled and the month doesn't matter anymore. I think for #2 (praying all goes well with #1 that is, still very early) we will try for May or June again, giving my body about 5-6 months off before trying again. Though I might change my mind on that when we have a baby, we'll see!
I think it's nice to aim for things but to me a baby is a blessing and a miracle any time they come. I would do what we did again. :) Good luck!
We didn't plan it, but now that we have a spring baby I wouldnt do it any other way. Being pregnant through winter was great and when the sun came out so did the baby :)
I think if I could plan, I would plan on an April baby - pregnant in the winter, but you have your baby in spring - not too hot or too cold when baby is born. instead we had an august baby. while it was a HOT summer, having a fall baby was well worth it because those first few months when baby is fragile, I never had to worry about high heat or extreme cold and we spent much of our time outside. I loved it. I tihnk the only months I would avoid if possible would be Dec/Jan/Feb (of course watch our next kid be born then!)
I totally get what people are saying abou just wanting a healthy baby, but you have to make the decision to start TTC at some point, so my opinion is that you might as well put some thought into when that time will be.
Although we will - of course - my happy with any EDD, my husband and I talked at length about when to start TTC and ultimately decided that it would be best to have a child in the spring (right in the middle of the pack, age-wise; good time for maternity leave; no being hugely pregnant in the DC summer...). *If* I am pregnant (TWW sucks!!) my due date would be in mid-March. Obviously, we aren't going to stop TTC just because of the time of year, so if it takes awhile, it takes awhile. (Please no...)
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