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It's not "customary." I think some couples just think it's fun to take lessons together, or are so nervous about performing in front of their nearest and dearest that taking lessons and learning something helps them relax!
But seriously, go with whatever makes you most comfortable. The junior high stand-and-sway is still sweet, because (awwww...) it's your first MARRIED stand-and-sway.
I think you should do whatever makes you feel most comfortable! I think some people like having a choreographed dance because they would be nervous to go out there w/o a game plan. I've seen both choreographed dances and just simple dances, and both kinds are always sweet!!
It's not customary at all -- it's just kind of a fad thing right now. Actually, I think it's a little cheesy. There's absolutely nothing wrong with doing a regular slow dance. (I'm going to have enough trouble getting my FI to do that, even -- he does not dance at all, possibly unless he's really drunk).
I don't think its cheesy to do a choreographed dance, perse. I think its kind of nice. There are two types, though. There is the surprise choreographed first dance, and then there's dance lessons choreographed waltz or something. I went to one of each last year, and enjoyed both!
I am looking for a dance instructor to teach us some moves for the big day - something simple and nice.
But, to answer your question, it is NOT lame to do a "regular dance" for a minute or two. Just pick a song that you like and enjoy your dance! I cried watching my sister and bro-in-law doing their first dance/sway. I was so overcome with emotions just watching them sway - because in their eyes I saw their love for each other, and that's what its all about!
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do what you're most comfortable with. your guests are there to celebrate you, so they expect you to BE you! we didn't choreograph (and that's even with me being able to do that myself), but rather we chose to dance impromptu and made it fun for guests to watch. we didn't do the sway dance coz, honestly, they are kinda boring. but if that's YOU, your guests won't hold it against you!
I agree wholeheartedly with Ms. Tofu... sway or choreographed, it depends what you feel comfortable with. For some people, choreography would be really uncomfortable, but for some of us it sounds like a blast.
Mr. Doctor and I are going to surprise our friends and family with a Lindyhop dance. I don't know if we'll pull it off, but how fun will that be?!
Does anyone plan to do a retro-inspired dance? I thought about possibly doing the "regular" slow dance, then breaking into the jitterbug. I think it would be a fun surprise!
You can do whatever makes you happy. I'm about 4 months away and I am still planning on doing a few lessons before the wedding. I don't want to get to crazy just want the FI to be a bit more comfortable!
Personally, I think swaying is a little boring...I like turns and dips and things! Now, my fiance!? He'd probably agree with you 100%! I used to ballroom dance so I am going to begin attempting to convince him to take lessons...however, we're probably going to end up swaying, which is fine too! It is about the moment between the two of you, not a show. (I still want lessons though) :) Again though, everyone is different!
thank you so much ladies!
I could be swayed to take some lessons (just so i'm not completely clueless on the dancefloor!) It's funny because I'm pretty decent on a dancefloor with hip hop/rap and I absolutely LOVE the Latin Dance Competitions. But waltz, slowdance, ballroom, swing...i'm a complete moron.
Does anyone know how many lessons we might need to do a few special moves? Maybe just a waltz or other simple choreographed dance?
I said to my fiance after we were engaged I wanted to take lessons, he of course danced around the living room (running man style) and told me he didn't need them! That was 18 mos ago. For my birthday in Jan he surprised me with a block of 6 private lessons! We finshed the 6 with a choreographed first dance. I was just planning on the sway but now we have a dance with turns and dips and spins! We aren't telling anyone and we can't wait to perform it. We had a lot of fun doing it, and the instructor sent us a dvd of all our lessons with the progression as a keepsake. We'll save the swaying for when we have had too many champagnes!
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Hi everyone,
Just wondering if it is customary for the bride and groom to do a choreographed dance? I wasn't planning on it. We're about four months until the wedding and I didn't think we had time to take lessons. On top of that, getting in front of everyone to "perform" makes me nervous.
Is it lame just to do a "regular" dance for a minute or two as our first dance? (By that I mean just sway to the music...)
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