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I thought about it, but I don't think he's really interested. Every time I mention them to him he says he wouldn't ever want me to do it because he thinks it would be weird to have some random person shooting me like that, haha.
I'm planning to do one. I think as long as it's tastefully done it's more than fine. My FI and I are waiting until we're married to have sex because of our personal beliefs, and we're really excited about it. ;) I believe sex is a beautiful thing that God created to cement the relationship of a husband and wife. So, in my opinion, why not allow my husband to see me in cute lingerie in pictures?
I wanted to a while ago, then after thinking about it for a while I decided to submit it to him, and he wasn't actually that keen! So I'm glad that he did.
Apart from that the two ?s I had were a) the photographer - would have to be a woman, and b) whether it's being of the world and indulging in smuttiness (I mean no offense to those who have had them done!). I never resolved those though as I ended up not doing them as above :P
I thought about it for a brief second, but I think that he would think it was weird to have someone photograph me like that. I think that it is a little weird too and can't really seem to get past the "feeling like a slut" or something thing. I haven't really considered it again, but maybe would do it for our 5th or 10th anniversary to spice things up. I don't see anything wrong with it, but think that the fact that we actually get to have sex on our wedding night will be much more than enough for him :)
I did and he looooooooooved it. Loved it. You can be as seductive as you want. They can be simple or you can show as much as you like. Sometimes the best ones are the ones that show practically nothing, but the mood and the lighting are just amazing. Look at it like a self portrait if you want =]. Granted, my guy got them about 6 months before the wedding as a welcome home from iraq gift. He was pretty elated...=]
I went ahead and did the boudoir shoot. At first I was a little hesitant because my FI and I won't have "been" together until our wedding night. To me, it felt a little weird trying to be sexy in pics when he's never even seen me like that before. lol...but then I got to thinking, when I give these photos to him, he'll be my husband and there will be nothing wrong with it at all.
Miss Velveteen...at first I was along your lines of thinking of would it be smutty if I took these pics? Well, if I was going to show them to every one in the world and every guy out there, yeah, I would feel pretty smutty...but considering it's going to be my husband, I don't feel like there is anything wrong about it...And I was totally with you on a female photographer. No way would I have had a male photographer. I know my FI would have gotten upset at that. Actually, the photographer that took my pics advertised herself as a "christian" photographer and emphasized on her webpage that this time of photoshoot should only be done for your spouse, so that made me feel better about it.
With all of that said, I just got back my proofs the other day and I can't wait to give them to my honey on our wedding night!!!
I had mine done with a husband and wife team, with my younger sister in tow. It didn't seem at all uncomfortable to have a guy there if his wife and my sister were there, too. (I had a lot of art major friends in college, and every single one of them said that when you're working with a nude, it's just shapes, NO sexuality). All of my changing was done in the bathroom, and they covered their eyes/looked away while I was adjusting, so by the time photos began, I was covered. My now-husband is an artist, so he was all for it as long as it was tasteful. It was a gift for the man I married, and he loved it.
I'm thinking about doing it. I'm not sure if I'd want to spend $$$$ for a photographer to do it, but I think he'd like it as a special gift.
I had them done and am sooooo happy with the result. Some things I did to make myself more comfortable:
1. I didn't do any photos that I would be embarassed if my grandma saw. I kept on a cami most of the time and my poses were very demure.
2. I used a female photographer. She really put me at ease and I loved her!
3. I'm not giving them to Lambster until the wedding :) My husband can see all that and more! :)
I'm doing them and I don't plan on wearing lingerie/being nude. I think there's something to be said for mystery.
There was a fantastic boudoir pep talk post by Miss Sprinkle recently and it put my jitters completely at ease.
http://www.weddingbee.com/2009/09/24/the-shy-girls-guide-to-boudoir-photography/
This is an interesting thread to read because I'm a photographer, a Christian, and soon to be married! I've actually been struggling with this myself for the past 2 years as it's grown in popularity because it's def. a great un-tapped stream of revenue for my business. But, I'm first and foremost a Christian and have always been of the belief that the Marital Act (sex) is for a man and wife and that doing a picture that's sole purpose is "objectification" i.e. oogling your wife is just kind of a step below saying it's ok to watch porn. I know, that's extreme, but it's been a real struggle for me and for my business. I've yet to shoot one.
But, now I'm moving toward being married, and while we're saving ourselves for our wedding night (which is getting harder and harder!) I'm feeling this new sense of how I can totally see how a woman would want to give her husband something like that! But yet, here I am, still struggling with the idea ;-)
For the record though, my clients are spread all over the "morals" and political realms. My shooting a wedding isn't exactly condoning their behaviors or political beliefs. It's separate, yet... this is a lot more personal... and opens a whole set of doors. i.e. I can't say to a client I do boudoir but you have to keep it chaste.
Also, I have done a few mini sessions during the getting ready time... when the bride is in her wedding day lingerie... so maybe I need to just get over it and do a whole dedicated session... lol.
I think the photos are really pretty and was seriously thinking about getting them done as a wedding present to him.. so I casually asked him about it one day, and he was not keen on the idea at all! So there went that idea... lol
I did them and loooooved it! It was with a husband and wife team and we spent the whole time laughing and talking and the photos came out amazing and my husband LOOOOOOVES them!!
I'm doing it! :D
I think it's fun, exciting, and something I want to do before we have kiddos!
I hope my thoughts here don't offend anyone, but I would like to offer a slightly different perspective. It's actually my opinion that our wariness, as Christians, of oversexualizing ourselves within the context of our marriage and having sex with our husbands is a casualty of our oversexualized culture. We're buying into the idea, so forced into our society by advertising, movies, television, etc, that sex is associated with infidelity, objectification of women, and other regretful vices. Therefore, we get the idea that dwelling on sex in any way is wrong and sinful. The point of waiting for marriage is to elevate sex, to admire it, adore it, love it for the amazing gift it is from God! It is my belief that sexy boudoir photos that will only be seen by your husband after marriage are not only appropriate, but completely in keeping with God's love of the sacred sex act within marriage. Marital sex is meant to be exciting, not boring! I find it a little sad when I hear Christian women who are wary of experimenting within their marriage with things like sex toys or mildly kinky sex play. God wants married folks to enjoy each other fully, and that includes keeping the heat of the marriage alive with things like sexy photos. I'll be doing boudoir and I'm excited! (It doesn't hurt that I'm in the best shape of my life, so, yeah, maybe I'll enjoy looking back on these photos one day too.) :)
I plan on doing it, if I don't do it for our wedding I will save it for our 1 year ann.
@littlestbirds - Yes! I tend to agree. It's something that people don't really talk about, in part becuase I think that there is a difference between public and private and I think sex is meant to be private within the marriage relationship. HOWEVER, I think God is glorified when married couples enjoy one another sexually. We're enjoying what God created our bodies to do! The Bible says that marriage is symbol of the mysterious relationship between Christ and the Church. I think that the union of husband and wife in sex is part of that mystery. Being together as one is not only a physical experience but a spiritual one as well.
One of my friends was toasted by her bridesmaid at the reception using Ecc. 4:11: Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? Here's to keeping warm!
Littlestbirds - I think for many, it's not that sex is "gross" or a "sin" or "shameful." On the contrary it is indeed incredible and a glimpse of the heavenly union between Christ and his Church.
On the topic of Boudoirs though, My personal hesitation relates to the "selfish" end... as the marital act is supposed to be a mutual self giving with the same end, not something for one to enjoy but not inclusive of the other.
Now, obviously in the bedroom if something is going to "aid" that mutual gift that's something else. But for this thread, the topic being "boudoirs" I think there are other elements to be examined.
In its truest form, the conjugal act should always reflect the “reciprocal ‘acceptance’ of the other." Pornography (or an objectifying image) perverts the conjugal act because it reduces the mutual self donation of husband and wife to an object of lust. It trains a spouse to look at the other as an object for their pleasure only. In other words, the conjugal act becomes an act of using and as a result spouses use one another for their own selfish objectives.
I personally think this is the point at which we have to look at when we're discussing the matter of "boudoir" images between Christian spouses.
--- 2nd the love of the toast! :-)
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As Christian Brides, what do you think about doing a Boudoir photo shoot as a gift for your hubby to be? Obviously not to be given to him until after the wedding, but are any of you planning to do a book of boudoir photos for your future hubby?