- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
What’s your take on this, Bees?
What’s your take on this, Bees?
I’m not sure which Bible they’re reading…but it’s not the same one I am.
Clearly, the pastor they interviewed agrees. In my opinion, it’s a misinterpretation of the concept of marriage in the Bible. Submission is grossly mischaracterized.
@MrsEdamame: not sure if you noticed but there was a thread about this posted yesterday:
@MrsEdamame: No. Just no. I know that some Christians want a traditional marriage where the man is the head of the household… Personally I do not. We are a team and we are equals. But fine– I can respect someone else’s choices and religious beliefs. I just think this takes it too far. This is not okay.
Also, for anyone who is curious, I found this blog run by a husband who practices CDD: http://mickandlyndasblog.blogspot.com/2013/03/the-list.html#comment-form
He has a clearly outlined list of what she must accomplish each day in order to avoid being spanked.
@MrsEdamame: I’d call that a fetish site more than a Christian site. In fact I can’t see any Christian justification on that blog at all.
EDIT: I’ve followed all the links on the Huffpost article, and I can’t find any churches or church leaders endorsing it, or in fact anyone interviewed by their full name. It looks like they just found some web sites and interviewed (or more likely quoted from the Q&A page of) a couple of anonymous bloggers. So I think it is just a tiny fetish group on the internet, which is not really news.
DH and I are devout Chrisitians (My grandfather was a pastor and so is DH’s father). With that said if he ever tried to “spank” me, I’d claw his eyes out. Not happening.
@goodasitgets: Well, the usual line used to either justify or villify (depending on your point of view) that attitude that says that males are dominant is in Ephesians 5.
The verse is taken WAY out of context, generally speaking. If you read from Ephesians 5:21-33, you can see that “submission” takes into account the fact that any decisions that would be submitted to would be made for the benefit of the wife, by the husband. I wish I could be more eloquent about it, but essentially, it’s less submission, and more complete trust, as I read it.
The best description I’ve heard is this: A couple can’t decide which dessert to get after dinner, and can only afford one. She wants cheesecake, he wants chocolate cake. Rather than argue, he says, “Dear, we’re getting the cheesecake.” Again, in my understanding, she’s able to respect his decision, because he made the one that would make her happy.
Also, it is introduced that the married couple should submit to one another, and if read in its entirety, is really a beautiful passage. In an ideal world, of course. 🙂
I’m sorry and maybe this is insensitive to those that actually practice this, but I read all those articles and visited the website with the blog and beginners guide, and the only thing I get reading that stuff is turned on. There’s no way I could take it as a serious punishment or form of discipline, I’d enjoy it too much! ;P
@lizzieb: Thanks for the explanation! I’m not religious, so I didn’t really know much about this before.
I do like the idea about a couple submitting to one another (that does sound beautiful to me), but the idea of the wife submitting to the husband as she does to God and also making him head of the household would bother me. Then again, there are different strokes for different folks.
I read something about this possibly being associated with the Quiverfull movement (similar to the Duggars in 19 Kids and Counting — they don’t use birth control or natural family planning), not sure if that’s truly the case.
I just..can’t..I don’t even have words.