Post # 1
Darling Husband and I are Christians and we do not believe in divorce as a viable option for dealing with marital troubles (exceptions being abuse or adultery). I realize every situation is different, but I feel like many couples are resorting to divorce far too quickly and forgetting the “for better or worse” part of their vows.
I’ve seen some threads pop up lately about Christians and what they believe about pornography and premarital sex. I’m curious, how do Christians feel about divorce?
ETA: I see there has been some confusion as to why I posted this in the Christian board. I did this because I wanted to hear perspectives from other Christians. I more than welcome perspectives from those who do not identify as Christian though, so I added other options. I thought it would seem more odd to post this thread on a different board and have half of the poll options be directed only at Christians.
Post # 3
Christian, I believe in resorting to divorce in extreme circumstances only (like abuse)
Post # 4
Daughter of Christ here! I would say I beleive in divorce only in extreme situations but I also believe that if both partner’s are willing to do whatever it takes and give God control then divorce is never necessary.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Growing up Catholic, I learned that divorce is not an option.
My opinions have definitely changed over time.
Post # 6
I am a Christian and I voted Christian and don’t have strong beliefs of divorce if you’re unhappy get out! I was previously married and we divorced because we made each other miserable and he was also not a Christian which he could not open himself to becoming one. We have a beautiful daughter and she is a happy, smart kid who loves her daddy and her “papa Dave” my current Darling Husband. We are all really good friends and we all co-parent side by side. My ex and I are better friends now that we aren’t married. Anyway, the point is, it worked for me, and while I did say I would never get divorced when I married (who thinks they will get divorced on the day of their wedding, you know?), we tried to make something work that just wasn’t there. I have learned from it.
Anyway, I voted Christian and don’t have strong beliefs of divorce if you’re unhappy get out!
Post # 7
Christian who believes divorce is only an option for abuse, and sometimes cheating- the former is a reason to run, the latter I think can be worked through in some cases.
Post # 8
I am not Christian, but I beleive in divorce for special circumstances (abuse and cheating are the obvious ones) But also for mental health reasons that I think is often over looked. As a child of divorced parents (one of whom is christian) I am thankful daily that my mother and father divorced even though I was young. If they stayed together just to raise me my mother would still have been depressed, bitter, and angry often. there was no abuse going on, but I am glad I had happy parents that lived appart instead of miserable parents living together. just my .02$
Post # 9
I am a christian and I believe what the Bible says, only divorce for adultery reasons, any other problems, such as abuse, etc…. you can separate from each other.
(Matthew 5:31) “But I say to you, any man who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”
Post # 10
@Mrs.Enne: DH and I are both strong Christians, and neither of us believes divorce is an option, other than the Biblical exceptions that Scripture provides — in cases of adultery — or when the other spouse abandons the marriage (and unilaterally divorces the person who wants to keep the marriage together.)
In cases of abuse, I definitely would leave immediately for my own safety (and the safety of any children involved) and would not return unless, or until, the person had willingly submitted to — and agreed to be fully accountable to — spiritual authority, had undergone extensive counseling, and had earned back my trust (perhaps many years later, if at all.)
However, in any of these case, including perhaps a single instance of infidelity, I do not know if, or when, I, personally, would actually be the one filing for a divorce. However, if I discovered that my marriage was a total sham and that my spouse had been guilty of repeated acts of adultery (i.e. a Tiger Woods and Elin Nordegren type of situation), I very likely would be the person filing for divorce, since I would feel very confident about my Biblical grounds to do so.
Post # 11
I’m Christian (although I don’t go to church or anything) and I would only get a divorce in the case of abuse, addiction, and/or adultery.
Post # 12
Considering that the highest divorce rates in the country are in the most conservative religious states, I find this interesting.
I’m not religious, and I belive that divorce is an option in the case of physical or emotional abuse, infidelity, and extreme unhappiness. I really, really believe in the power of therapy and in both parties putting a lot of work into saving the marriage, though.
Post # 13
Not a Christian (atheist, to be exact) and I wholeheartedly believe in divorce. Obviously every couple should try to make it work but if you’re genuinely unhappy, you shouldn’t be forced to stay in a loveless marriage just because it’s the “right” thing to do.
I know you said that abuse or adultery would be the only reasons for divorce but what about addiction that tears your family apart? My father was an alcoholic and destroyed my family. He never laid a hand on my mother or I and to the best of my knowledge he never cheated on her but his addiction was not healthy to be around. My mother wanted me to have a better life than worrying about whether or not my father would stumble home drunk every night or not come home at all. Should she have stayed with him even after rehab proved to be useless? I can guarantee that my life wouldn’t have turned out anywhere near as wonderful as it did if my mother wasn’t strong enough to remove us from that situation. I hope that every woman would be able to find the courage that my mother did if they find themselves in that kind of position.
Fwiw, the person you divorce is not the same person you marry.
Post # 14
Christian, but don’t think divorce is the worst thing on earth, nor does it require “extreme circumstances”.
Post # 15
I would get a divorce asap if there was abuse, physical or emotional. I’m not sure what I would do if I were cheated on. To me, infidelity is a form of emotional abuse. If kids weren’t in the picture, I would divorce, if they were that would be tougher.. don’t know what I would do. Anything else I would try to work on.
Post # 16
For the people who voted in not believing in divorce in ANY circumstances (1 so far) , are there really NO exceptions what so ever?