Post # 1
*** I DO NOT WANT TO CAUSE DRAMA IN THIS POST. If you are in a same-sex relationship, I am not judging you. I’m more curious on what the Biblical views on this would be. Please no one be offended. ***
Alright. So FI has two lesbian friends that are in a relationship. Apparently they’re getting married this summer. I like them both, they’re both really great people, and I know that the wedding will be a good time. I also know that me saying I’m not attending (without another commitment) will be rude (they are attending our wedding). I know that the Bible states that their relationship is a sin. So I almost feel as though I should not attend the wedding as it’s like I’m saying it’s okay.
I am not very close to either of them, and it is not my place to tell them that “I think they’re sinning and shouldn’t get married”. I also know that this will not change their minds, but will affect their relationship with my FI.
Christian ladies…what do you think? Would it be wrong to attend this wedding and celebrate with them?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Do you still spend time with and celebrate with your friends who curse? Or who lie? Or who sometimes lose their temper and snap at people? Are you friends with anyone who isn’t a Christian/doesn’t hold the same belief system as you?
Everyone sins. As Christians, it’s not our job to judge people for sinning. Our job is to, as the Bible says, love our neighbors. Which includes your fiance’s friends. They obviously don’t have the same beliefs that you do, and that’s fine. Treat them as you would any other non-Christian friend, attend their wedding, and be happy for them. 🙂
Post # 4
One of my best friends and I literally just had a huge conversation abou this.
Why would it affect their relationship with your fiance?
Post # 5
@cardigan: Couldn’t agree more.
Post # 6
Ooh, this is a toughie. Being friends with them and spending time with them — of course! Thats not at all directly condoning the sin. But attending their marriage ceremony… I am kind of inclined to feel like that would equate to supporting the marriage and therefore the sin. This is difficult. I say consult a pastor whose opinion you really trust.
Post # 7
Proverbs 10:12 – Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers all wrongs.
1 Peter 4:8 – Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.
1 John 4:16 – And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him.
Matthew 7:1 – Judge not, lest ye be judged.
John 8:7 – Let him who is without sin be the first to cast a stone.
Galations 3:28 – There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
Post # 8
@cardigan: Remember how Jesus went and hung out with all the tax collectors? Remember how Mary Magdalene was, according to some interpretations of her “seven devils,” a prostitute? Go to the wedding.
Post # 9
A lot of times people disapprove of the marriage between two people for varying reasons. Maybe they think they’re too young, maybe they think they’ve rushed into the marriage, etc. But it really isn’t your place to judge whether or not they should get married, because you really don’t know the whole story, right?
Let me ask you another question–would you attend the marriage of two (opposite sex) people who were not getting married in a church, or who were having a secular ceremony, or were having a Muslim, Jewish, Hundu, Buddhist, etc ceremony? Just because you don’t share the same beliefs as someone, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t support them as they celebrate THEIR decisions according to THEIR beliefs.
Post # 10
I am loving the bee right now! Everyone is posting exactly what Im thinking 😀
Post # 11
I agree with Cardigan and moonadea completely; however just for the sake of argument – isn’t there a difference between loving people, not judging, and condoning a sin?
If you know someone is lying, will you encourage them to continue?
Everyone sins and there will be only one judge for our actions. But where is the line between not judging and accepting?
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
@egb: But I feel like if you say that you can’t go to a wedding because you believe gay marriage is a sin, then you can’t go to a wedding of a non-religious couple, because then aren’t you condoning the fact that they don’t believe in God?
I am a big believer in the idea that it is absolutely not my job as a Christian to push my beliefs onto others. If it was a Christian friend who was sinning and I felt compelled to address them about it, that’s one thing. But this couple (I’m assuming) is probably not religious and therefore doesn’t even subscribe to the same belief system as the OP. It’s unfair to place the standards of a religion on someone who doesn’t even believe in it.
Post # 13
Would you have the same reaction to going to a wedding of a couple that had premarital sex? That is a sin too.
It is not your place to judge them, it is God’s.
That being said, I’m a Christian but I personally do not feel like same-sex marriage is a sin. The Bible, while inspired by God, was written by man. I feel there are human biases, even if unintentiona. I strongly beleive that people are born gay or straight, they don’t chose that path. Gods loves all his creations.
Which do you think is greater, their “sin” or God’s grace?
Post # 14
OP, I may have differing views on Christianity than you because there are so many different shades of it, so please don’t be offended if we disagree theologically. But here goes:
In my view, it’s not really up to you as to whether your friends’ marriage “it’s okay” or not–that’s God’s arena. It is not your role to “approve” or “disapprove” of certain behaviors, and I personally believe that things I approve/disapprove of mean far less to God than the way I behave. In other words, I can condemn murder all I want, but that really means nothing if I, say, turn my back on the suffering of others. So whether people are “good” or “bad” is not really your call, because, in my view, the really basic essence of being a Christian is this:
You honor people as people, period.
It makes no difference as far as you are concerned if THEY sin in their own lives. They are still people and no more or less flawed than you; therefore, you treat them with kindness, compassion, and respect.
Post # 15
You don’t want to cause drama, but you posted a thread where you ask if it’s ok to go to a lesbian wedding cause they are sinners? Not gonna lie–kinda offended.
Edit: You aren’t judging those in same-sex relationships, but you would consider “boycotting” (if you will) a lesbian wedding because you don’t want to support their “sin”?
That’s what we call judgement.
Post # 16
@cardigan:You are right. I was questioning for the sake of argument/discussion.