Post # 1
Would you put TTC plans on hold this month if your estimated due date would be right around New Years, understanding that a baby could come a week or two early or late? Meaning, you might have a baby right before/after Christmas or right before/after New Years?
I’ve included a poll, but I would love to hear your thoughts. Are you a Christmas baby yourself? Love it? Hate it?
[Note- I know “you never know” but this is not taking into account any infertility problems. With infertility problems, I understand you would probably want to keep trying, because any time you would be graced with a baby would be amazing. BUT this is saying that there will hopefully be no problems, and you could successfully conceive in the months following this one.]
EDITED TO ADD: I’ve made up my mind on this, but my hubs and I have different opinions, so I just wanted to see what everyone thought. And I’m not concerned about a Christmas baby for ME. It’s not that big of a deal. I was thinking more about a child growing up with a birthday at Christmas-time.
Post # 3
@LoveHappy: We didn’t stop trying. If we were successful this month, my EDD will be December 23rd. We talked about putting it on hold, but the “but what if this would be the month?” kept looming.
I don’t feel so bad about potentially giving a child a Christmas birthday. I have a couple friends with December birthdays, and they never seemed to mind. And 5 of this child’s (if we conceived) cousins will have birthdays in December/early January, so they can commiserate 😉
It really came down to wanting a baby badly enough to not stop trying.
Post # 4
I would continue TTC, but I’m really not concerned about having a holiday baby. I would take a baby, any time of the year. 🙂
Post # 5
@LoveHappy: personaly, I would welcome a baby at any time 🙂 Good luck, how exciting to be planning!
Post # 6
Take it from this Jan 6th baby… it sucks! Not so much as an adult but when you’re a kid? Big time! I remember getting BD presents under the tree and alternatively, BD presents wrapped in Christmas paper. Or my personal fave – the happy bd/merry xmas combo present.
Now as an adult, after Christmas and NYE and my BD is over, the rest of the long cold winter is pretty darn depressing.
Post # 7
If it’s really THAT important to you not to have a christmas baby, sure. But I think a lot of the women on here are just waiting/excited for it to happen and don’t care when 🙂
I would LOVE a christmas baby!
Post # 8
I am a Christmas baby! Born on Dec 25th.
I have to say, I both love and hate it.
As a kid, I really hated it because we were always on vacation for my birthday and I never got to have my mom bring cupcakes for the class like all the other kids. (Although the summer birthday kids had to deal with that too.)
A lot of people do the whole, "here’s your birthday/Christmas present." Which as an adult is no big deal. I don’t want presents. But as a kid, it kind of sucks.
As an adult, I guess I don’t care about celebrating my birthday as much anymore. But it still sucks when you try to plan a night out (maybe drinks, dinner, whatever) or a small house party. There’s no good date to celebrate in December. People have work parties, family commitments, they’re often out of town…So I still get that "nobody likes me!" feeling even though I know better.
That said, it does feel kind of special to be a Christmas baby. It’s kind of cool/unique and an interesting conversation starter. For example, whenever I have to show my ID someone will inevitably go, "OMG! You were born on Christmas!" So that’s kind of fun.
I hate this expression but…AT THE END OF THE DAY…who really cares as long as you have a happy, healthy baby? Go for it!
Post # 9
We planned for our baby last April, right around this time actually….and were blessed with a mid-Jan baby. She was expected Jan 9 but around the holidays this year…I got excited, hoping for an early Christmas or New Year’s or even tax return treat! 🙂 Ah well, she ended up being a day-before-Martin Luther King Day baby. My friend’s birthday is mid-January and never had any problems with his birthday, but my cousin’s one is early January-she doesn’t like it at all. My friend is a guy and is not a bit materialistic and just likes to party with lots of people. My cousin is a girly girl and likes gifts a lot! The only problem I see as a parent, is being extra careful with money to make sure you celebrate the birthday separate! I like intimate parties so having it around the holidays may provide a justifiable excuse to just have a few over instead of a huge bash. Also, you can take snow trips/vacations to celebrate their birthday.
Post # 10
I probably wouldn’t stop TTC. But, a lot of people I know born around the holidays do complain about it.
Post # 11
As a child I hated having a birthday around the holiday season- combo gifts, people partied out, etc. Now I don’t really care as much, but most years it’s still really hard to celebrate because people are busy. But, if you are TTC, I wouldn’t plan to much around it.
Post # 12
if you are ttc, i would start trying as soon as you’re ready. most women do not get pregnant right away, so it could take a few months to actually happen. if you try to pinpoint when the baby will/won’t be born too closely, it could just lead to frustration. good luck!
Post # 13
I think if you are blessed that you do not have any infertility issues, taking a month off from trying really shouldn’t be a big deal. I think skipping a month is better than having a holiday baby. However, it really shouldnt matter especially if you have fertility issues, a baby is a baby. If he/she ends up with a holiday birthday its just one more of life’s lessons they have to learn to deal with.
Post # 14
@LoveHappy:I answered your thread about this same issue last week. For myself, it would not be an issue. My child will know its birthday and will still have their special day regardless of when it falls. I disagree with it is a life lesson they will have to deal with. I feel it is an issue for the parents to still make them feel special on their birthday and not combine it into the holiday. Like I said in the other post, there could always be something that would make you want to not try this month or that month based on when your potential due date would be.
Post # 15
I don’t want a Christmas baby, but we are still TTC this month. I’ve learned that you don’t really get what you want in this process, so I’ll take what I can get! Then if it doesn’t work this month we’ll have a reason not to be as upset…
Post # 16
Ooops! I voted in the poll before reading the infertility treatments “disclaimer.” But yea, since I have been trying for over a year, and currently on fertility medication, I won’t be waiting! If I get pregnant this cycle, I am more likely to have a New Year’s Eve baby rather than a Christmas baby though. But I won’t stop trying because of the holiday. My mom can bring me her famous New Year’s chicken wings while I am in the hospital! Oh yea, and don’t forget the full year’s tax deduction! 🙂