Christmas card ettiquette

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If they live together, I address it to both.

Post # 4
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I address it to the couple, not just one person. As far as proper etiquette I’m sure an etiquette bee will chime in here soon about how it’s properly done, but I’m pretty relaxed with my addressing rules 🙂

Post # 5
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I also think it’s nice to address them both the same way. For instance, if you’re just addressing them casually to John and Jane NoLasNamesForAnybody, then do that. But if you put a last name, then put it for both. We just got a Christmas card from FI’s aunt that read “FI LastName + Me” and I felt like an afterthought.

Post # 6
3596 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I only address it to both people if they live togehter or are engaged.

Post # 7
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@luluvohn:  If they live together I will address the envelope and card to both. If they live separately I will address the envelope to my friend and the card to both. It’s nice to include the SO.

Post # 9
6980 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

I think you should just go ahead and address them to the whole household. Hope that helps!

Post # 10
539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I have a friend that he and his partner lived with his mom. He and mom had same last name, and his brother also lived there and had a different last name. So my card was to the “A/B/C Family”, or to “Mom & the boys” (they called themselves the boys so they didn’t find it offensive). I’d say for a same sex couple, address it to Steve and Joe.


I also have some friends that I’ve never actually met the spouse. If it’s a woman I dont have a problem addressing them to just her,  but if I’m just friends with the guy I’ll address it to the Smith family (or both of them if I know her name).

Post # 11
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@TwoCityBride:  +1

@Ap2010:  Christmas cards aren’t the same thing as wedding invitations.  I wouldn’t worry about being too careful.  If they live together, then it’s easy to include both names on the envelope.  If they don’t live together, then I’d just send it to whoever I’m closer to.

For example, my best friend is dating someone that she doesn’t live with.  It would be weird for me to send them both a card, so I’m just sending one to my BF.  She can of course show it to him if she wants, but I doubt she’d be offended that I didn’t address it to him.  It’s not like I’m excluding him from a party or something.  It’s just a picture!  Don’t overthink it and you’ll be fine.

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