Post # 1
I just received a Christmas card in the mail from my fiance’s coworker and his girlfriend. First of all, the envelope was addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Bichon Frise. I am not married yet, so this really annoys me. They did this once before when inviting Fiance and I to a birthday party. Apparently, it’s the girlfriend who addresses the envelopes and she does it because she thinks it’s funny. I do not think it’s funny and actually think it’s kind of rude, especially since I know her personality and don’t care for her snarky sense of humor.
The second thing that annoys me is the card itself. It’s a photo card with the coworker, the girlfriend and the dog wearing matching clothing. The reason I don’t like it is because 1) they have only been dating a year, 2) they don’t live together and 3) the coworker is always complaining about how they are about to break up. It just seems so rediculous to send out a family photo card when you aren’t even that committed to each other.
I realize I may be overreacting and I could also be annoyed because I just don’t care for the girlfriend, but I just felt like venting about this. Is this type of thing normal or does it seem annoying to anyone else?
Post # 3
it is much worse when you receive mail that is Mr.X and guest when you have been with your SO longer than the couple getting married have known each other….
It wouldnt annoy me because you are getting married, at least you are included
Post # 4
@Bichon Frise: It’s more funny than annoying. Those are the cards you save and bring out to show friends. We know a couple like that. There’s always one uber dramatic, always on the edge of breakup couple. My friend has said about a million times that she’s going to leave her fiance. They’re still together after some dealbreaker worthy stuff. It’s fun to watch, but not be involved in. I would take the Mr. and Mrs. as a compliment. I’ve been married two years and I squee when I received cards addressed as “Mrs. Carrieknitscake.”
Post # 5
I almost always get cards from FI’s friends/family as “Mr J Lastname and Kerensa. No mention of my last name, and when they do include it, they spell it wrong.
I don’t find the cards to be that aggravating. I think you might be overreacting since you don’t like this girl. I actually think it’s corny to have all the matching outfits but in a kind of silly/christmas is cheesy/ awful way. Like the way people have those ugly christmas sweater parties, lol.
Post # 6
I think you’re over reacting too cause you dont like her. I think its more weird than annoying that she would address it as if you’re married when you’re not yet. And the family-ish pic is fine with me even if you’re just dating. Maybe a tiny bit weird, but whatever. It’s life at the moment as they want to share it. No biggie.
Post # 7
@Bichon Frise: I think it’s kind of funny, but I totally get what you’re coming from.
I have this sense of mockery from the Girlfriend of one of FIs best friends, she got pregnant the week they started dating and since they have a child now live together (she moved with his parents). Meanwhile Fi and I’ve been dating for 8 years and are now engaged, but since we don’t live together she makes this little comments suggesting their relationship’s more important than ours just cause the yshare the same bed (even though they have broken up twice in a year). ugh
Post # 8
Be happy about the Mr. and Mrs. thing! You guys ARE going to be Mr. and Mrs. soon. Like MrsAu said, it’s better Mr. and Mrs. than Mr. ____ and guest. Unless, of course, this girl is mocking you guys. I don’t know your situation. length of engagement, etc. Maybe she is being a “b” and trying to insinuate that you won’t get married or her relationship is more valid (because they dress alike with their dog), like Coffeecup said.
The dog and the matching clothes things is HILARIOUS! I’d be showing that to everyone just for laughs.
Post # 9
@Coffee cup: I do feel like it is mocking. She is well aware of my name and has even met me in person twice before. That’s why the Mr. and Mrs. thing annoys me.
Post # 10
I def don’t mind Mr & Mrs, but I do hate being referred to as “guest” or being ommitted altogether from cards addressed to my FH. That irks the shit out of me. We have been engaged for over a year now people & our wedding is in like 4 mos…come on.
Post # 11
Did anybody see the Friends episode with Ross and his girlfriend last night? She wanted to do a joint Christmas card and he thought it was too soon. It was pretty funny. Reminds me of this!
Post # 12
@kerensa: I get that a lot too.
Both of his parents (they are divorced) had to ask him what my last name was so they could write out a check for my bday. Totally generous of them to give me bday money, but yeah. Been together over 4 years, lived together 2.