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Even though I despise most of our E-Pics, I would really like to do something with the ones we have. I thought maybe sending out photo Christmas cards was a good idea. Is it ok to send out a Christmas card together even though we aren't married yet (living together)? I figured it was ok, but thought I would see what the Bee's thought!
That sounds like a great us of your e-pics! We've been sending out Christmas cards together since we've been engaged. The only time it's weird (I think) is like when the couple sending them out together is early in their relationship and most people their sending it too don't even know the SO, met them, or know they're together. True story: a crazy ex-gf of one of my guy friends made photo christmas cards to send out when they'd only been dating a month. Their relationship ended shortly after sending them out, haha!
Lol that is funny!! Ok just wanted to make sure we weren't breaking any etiquette rules!! There is only like 5 we like so I feel like they are just going to waste!
We've been sending out Christmas cards since we moved in together four years ago! you're fine ;o)
Since we have been together for quite some time, we have sent out Christmas cards together prior to even being engaged. Everyone already knew we were living together, so it wasn't a big deal to grandparents or other family members. Usually it was after a move to a new place too, so we could update addresses.
It is fine to send out cards together even if you aren't married. My husband's cousin sent them out last year, they are juniors in college this year and won't be married for another 2 years at least.
I think your situation is fine if you send christmas cards, because you're engaged and living together.
Hmm... I was thinking about doing this but we're not living together (in college). Any thoughts bees?
Yep, my husband and I sent out joint Christmas cards when we were living together - and not yet engaged. I didn't hear a word about it from anyone.
We have been sending Christmas cards together for four years and we just got engaged last Feb. We've been living together for 5. Nothing wrong with that!
We've been giving out X-mas cards together the last 2 years-haven't been engaged or living together. I would think it's fine.
I would be SERIOUSLY uncomfortable using a picture from a photographer that you slammed (even though right after the shoot, you went on and on about how great he was). Why not just use pictures that your BF took?
@HopefulBride- WTH does that have to do with her questiion? She was not asking about the photos. Your post seems a little suspicious to me.
Um, she said that she DESPISES her photos and I think that if she hates them so much, then she should use better photos she already has.
YIKES...whats up with the tension HopefulBride?!
I say YES about sending Christmas cards! The FI and I did it last year and we were just BF/GF, but living together. It'll be a nice thing for your family and friends to see pre-wedding!
I don't see anything wrong with sending them out! That sounds like a great idea for your e-pics!
I think sending the card is fine, but use photos that she actually LIKES and that look good.
She even mentioned in her previous post that some turned out ok, so i'm not sure how you get that she hated all of them. She just said the majority of them looked blurry and unprofessional, but regardless, that has nothing to do with the post. If a friend took some overall bad pictures of you and your FI playing in the snow, for instance, but one turned out really well, you'd probably want to use that picture for something since you liked that ONE, right?
Same deal here. And btw if you decide to do them, WDWBride, let us know where you're getting them printed! I like the ones from vistaprint, snapfish and shutterfly so i'm having trouble deciding.
I just think that it's wrong to use the photos when she slammed her photographer. Her BF took really nice engagement photos (TWICE actually). Why not use them instead?
She paid for the engagement shoot...if she likes a photo or two I would HOPE she'd use it! Otherwise it just seems a complete waste.
Why? She paid for the photos and she didn't like his work. She got something for her money, so why not use it?
And as for her BF taking really nice engagement photos, maybe she plans to use those elsewhere and instead get some use out of the E-pics that she doesn't plan to do anything else with, so that instead of being something negative, she turns it into something positive.
I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill here!
I don't think you're breaking any rules here. You are engaged and you already live together; it makes more sense to combine your X-mas card list, anyway!
I suppose ou are right. I apologize. It just irked me that she would use the bad photo, when she has better to chose from.
I think it would be fine to send the pictures.. We aren't even engaged and are sending out cards
I understand, but a lot of brides use those e pics as like guestbooks or something... I'd hate for my guests to see my e pics before I used them in the wedding if that was the direction i was going in... :P
Yes actually my fiancee and i did it even before we where engaged.
I send cards, and if it is to a mutual friend, I get BF to sign it and write a note.
I mentioned in another thread that we wanted to steal my friend's baby and take the "look at our family!" style pictures, to cause "what when did you have a kid" and "but you aren't even married!... or are you?" sorts of drama.
But we don't like drama, so there are no pictures.
Wow...not sure what the heck is going on but I'll make two points (COMPLETELY UNRELATED TO MY ORIGINAL QUESTION)
1) We paid for our E-pics. Upon seeing them we decided NOT to use that photographer for our wedding. Nonetheless, we still paid for E-pics and did like about 10...out of FOUR HUNDRED AND FIFTY!! I was planning on using the E-pics for a guest book but there aren't enough pictures...I'm sad that we don't have any good pics so this was my compromise.
2) My Bf has not taken e-pics of us...not once. She did do a photo shoot with us before we even got engaged to test out her new camera since she's a professional photographer. She also snapped about 5 pics of us on a beach in Disney...that was for HER portfolio, not for us.
Back to the original topic...I was thinking of using shutterfly but am going to check out Vista Print now. Thanks!!
1.) It's unreasonable to think that the majority of UNEDITED photos are going to be keepers. For the price you paid, I think you got a reasonable amount of photos.
2.) Just because it's not an "engagement shoot" doesn't mean that you can't use those photos as engagement pictures. I find it hard to believe that she didn't give you the photos, especially since you posted them AND since she is your BF. I mean she did it for free and you are wanting her to shoot some of your reception so I would think she would give you some photos to round out your guest book and Christmas cards.
Oh, and Blurb has books that you can use as your guest book, if you don't want to go with Shutterfly.
Hopefulbride, I must say, why are you attacking her? It's getting tense in here because you're throwing around (EDIT) harsh words to someone you don't even know! Chill out everyone! Maybe the pictures from her BF weren't enough, or they wanted a different style
And to WDWBride... we got some sort of "create it" card for shutterfly for registering at target (we didn't keep the registry, too many complications, lol) for $20 or something... I totally think that's going towards shutterfly cards! :)
I'm not attacking her at all. She put her actions out there, so I commented on them. Besides, She will ignore anything that doesn't fit perfectly into her plan.
She can do whatever she wants, but don't say one hing and do another.
No need to get tense; I'm not! :)
HopefulBride - We welcome your contributions! And it's definitely ok to disagree with our fellow users.
But as cinemaparadiso mentioned, your tone is coming across as a bit harsh... plus many of your comments on two separate threads appear to be targeted at WDWBride (I'm not sure why). Can I ask that you not target any particular user?
I think we must agree to disagree, because I don't see where she minced words, but to each their own. This is getting ridiculous.
I don't think 10 out of over 400 picutres is reasonable. But that's not the issue here...we paid for E-pics we have every right to use. Did my BF takes pics of us, sure...they weren't by any means E-Pics. I'm not sure why you feel the need to follow me around to different boards and attack me. The only reason I post on any wedding board is to see opinions from other brides and to share my experience. You don't have to agree with our experience with our photographer but you do not need to bach me, attack me or call me a liar. The internet is a big place...if I bother you so much I am sure there are other website you can go to.
Thank to those Bee's that did answer my question. We are looking forward to doing our Christmas cards!!
I'm not attacking at all. I am new here and don't have many posts, so I guess it appears that I am targeting her, but I have been posting elsewhere since I joined.
I'm not following you around to different boards and attacking. Just because I gave a different opinion doesn't mean its an attack.
It's funny because you made comments about stuff I haven't posted here. I tend to post generally on Weddingbee...not really specific...I didn't even mention the photographers name (EVER!). You are posting on a thread about Christmas Cards but attacking me because of my situation with a photographer. I had a bad vendor experience, that's it, and doesn't have anything to do with Christmas Cards.
I never said that I didn't know who you were or where you post. I said i didn't go from place to place attacking you. Big difference.
I asked why since you despise most of the photos, why you would use some of them (yes I know you paid for them).
I really don't want to get into a fight.
Mr. Star and I sent out a Christmas newsletter with one of our E-pics last year, even though the wedding was still almost a year away! I say go for it! After the wedding, you can send out Christmas cards with your wedding pics, so use those E-pics before they become obsolete ;)
@cinemaparadiso thanks for the suggestion of Vistaprint! I think I like their selection better than shutterfly which I usually love!
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