Post # 1
So for those of you that have only started waiting in 2010, last year we did a Christmas Challenge to encourage ourselves (and others) not to bring up anything waiting/engagement/wedding related to our SOs through the holidays. (Some people even did NYE, and Valentine’s Day challenges that took them through ALL the major holidays.)
I know for me I’m worried about ruining the surprise of that special moment by nagging, moping, and basically being a total shrew about the whole thing until he finally proposes. And frankly I don’t want to ruin the holidays for myself. This is one of my favorite times of year and I don’t want to spend it sad or upset because something that I really have no control over hasn’t happened yet.
In other (somewhat related) news I just walked into my boss’s office and there were two people already in there. One looked at me and said: “How’s your engagement?” Ugh. Yes, we use the word engagement on my project as shorthand for employee engagement, but for a micro-second I thought he was confused about me actually being engaged. Of course the other two people thought the same thing and the girl went: “Oh! You’re engaged! Congratulations!” And I had to be like: “No, I think he meant at work.” He was then apologetic, and the other guy said he also thought that meant I was engaged, and I just wanted to curl up in a ball somewhere and die.
But now I’ve vented it here, and I’m not going to bring it up at home, and I’m not going to say anything during our romantic trip to Napa/SF, and I won’t say anything at Thanksgiving, or Christmas or New Years.
After that of course all bets are off.
How about you ladies?
Edit: OMG I’ve been waiting so long I’ve done 2 of these challenges now. I will NOT be here for a third!
Post # 3
I’m in! I need this! I feel like I’m totally ruining the fun of the whole thing every time it gets brought up. I want to enjoy the holidays and be myself again. Let’s do this!!!
Post # 4
Great idea. I think if I can make it to NYE without bringing it up I will buy myself a present.
Post # 5
Ooof! I’m in too, but come Dec 26th, all bets are off! I hope I can make it! It’s gonna be hard! Good luck to us all!
Post # 6
Ouchhh.. it’ll be tough but I think I can manage! It’ll help the holiday mood AND it might be easier to do, since I get so consumed in gift-buying for family and friends!! Perhaps a rubber band around my wrist may help 🙂
Post # 7
(I might prep him beforehand though and explain my expectations one last time before Christmas though!)
I have a guy friend who is going to propose to his girlfriend. He has the ring. They’re going on a month long vacation through December. He’s not going to propose until the middle of January. (!!!!!!!!!) I think if that was my boyfriend I’d kill him!!! I sincerely hope the girl isn’t upset or wanting the ring. I personally think waiting until January is MEAN. I’m hoping that none of our boyfriends are like that guy!! I think guys don’t get the pressure that holidays (thanksgiving, christmas, new years and Valentines) add to winter….
Post # 9
I think I need to have ONE more talk w/BF….then I really will shut up until New Years Day!
Post # 10
Oh my goodness I’m so deppresed that I remember last year’s! How did it come round again so quickly!!
I’ll def try and take part this time though… at least until NYE
Post # 11
Uuuuuhhhhhh!?!?!?!?!? So I’m battling whether or not to commit to this. I want to for sure! At the beginning of the year my original “deadline” was NYE. Now because we’ve discussed and practically picked a date (June 2011) any day that goes by is time wasted for planning. I may try until Dec 1st. Not sure about Christmas. Too close to the end of the year. LOL…But I commend all you ladies who do this. This is great! Like some of the other bee’s there may need to be ONE MORE TALK for me and my SO.
Post # 12
I’ll give it a shot, but I gotta make make it through his brother proposing next week – can I start then? Does it count if anyone ELSE brings it up in front of both of us? As long as I’m not the one to mention it?
Post # 13
I’m in! I just have to remember that I agreed to do this or I might accidently slip. I have well over a year to go so this should be a breeze. Well it might be easy as long as no one mentions their wedding plan to me. I can’t help but have to join any wedding related discussion. You can count me in until NYE.
Post # 14
@Taylor4:Ok, I’m in on the challenge.
Side note, where are you staying in Napa? We’re looking to go away in April and that sounds glorious!!
Post # 15
Totally in. I definitely need to not ruin anything when it possibly is really close. I definitely don’t want to be moppy I love the holidays. 🙂 I’m going to wear a rubber band and snap it everytime I want to say anything lol …gosh this is going to be painful ahh
Post # 16
I’m in! I will not not mention it again for the rest of the year! I will be on Weddingbee everytime I want to ask him about it!