Christmas dilema

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
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3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@sheep105:  I can understand where you are coming from! What my SO and I usually do is spend christmas with my family one year and his family the next year. It has worked out well for us, though our families live in different states.

Does your SO’s family have to bring their dog? Can one of the parent’s families come over to the other parent’s house? For example: can your mom host this year and have you, your SO and your SO’s family over for christmas? If you do not plan on spending the whole day at their house I don’t see the need to bring their dog.

If you can’t get everyone together discuss with your SO who’s house you would rather go to for christmas day and pick one to go to christmas eve. There is a way to work it out without offending anyone!

Post # 4
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42469 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sheep105:  Have you and your SO talked about what part of Christmas or which traditions are most important to each of you? Some families priorize Christmas Eve. Others, Christmas morning and going to church together as a family.

Do you live within driving distance of both families? That makes things much easier as you can spend time with both families without too much trouble. Otherwise, couples often have to alternate Christmases with each family.

9 people isn’t that many to host at your  place. People are happy to do a buffet and some can sit in the living room. Each family can bring their traditional dishes and leave the dogs at home.

You are  at the beginning of many years of compromise. Good luck with your decision making.

Post # 5
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2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

are they close in distance to each other?

when i was little, my parents split their time on christmas with both sets of parents. we did christmas eve dinner with my dad’s parents, then church with my mom’s parents. then, we did christmas morning/dinner with my mom’s parents, and dessert with my dad’s parents. they lived within 10 minutes of each other, so it wasn’t a big travel issue.

for FI and i, we’re going to switch off. one year, we’ll do thanksgiving with his parents, and christmas with mine. the next year, we’ll switch and do thanksgiving with mine and christmas with his. his family is in washington state, mine is in massachusetts. it’s like, a 3000 mile difference.

Post # 7
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1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

I’d consider a Christmas brunch/lunch at one place, and a late dinner get together with the other.  I did this last year, worked out great.

Post # 9
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181 posts
Blushing bee

Spend x mas eve with one, and x mas day with the other. 

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