Post # 1
Right so I know it’s september but…
My Mum asked me what SO and I are doing about christmas and i really don’t know
My mum wants us there his mum wants us at theirs
I’d invite everyone to ours but with 9 people plus my kitchen couldn’t cope plus there’s the issue of each of our parents having dogs who are incapable of playing together as one is old and fraile and the other is young big and boystrous
HELP i don’t want to offend anybody on our first christmas living together
Post # 3
@sheep105: I can understand where you are coming from! What my SO and I usually do is spend christmas with my family one year and his family the next year. It has worked out well for us, though our families live in different states.
Does your SO’s family have to bring their dog? Can one of the parent’s families come over to the other parent’s house? For example: can your mom host this year and have you, your SO and your SO’s family over for christmas? If you do not plan on spending the whole day at their house I don’t see the need to bring their dog.
If you can’t get everyone together discuss with your SO who’s house you would rather go to for christmas day and pick one to go to christmas eve. There is a way to work it out without offending anyone!
Post # 4
@sheep105: Have you and your SO talked about what part of Christmas or which traditions are most important to each of you? Some families priorize Christmas Eve. Others, Christmas morning and going to church together as a family.
Do you live within driving distance of both families? That makes things much easier as you can spend time with both families without too much trouble. Otherwise, couples often have to alternate Christmases with each family.
9 people isn’t that many to host at your place. People are happy to do a buffet and some can sit in the living room. Each family can bring their traditional dishes and leave the dogs at home.
You are at the beginning of many years of compromise. Good luck with your decision making.
Post # 5
are they close in distance to each other?
when i was little, my parents split their time on christmas with both sets of parents. we did christmas eve dinner with my dad’s parents, then church with my mom’s parents. then, we did christmas morning/dinner with my mom’s parents, and dessert with my dad’s parents. they lived within 10 minutes of each other, so it wasn’t a big travel issue.
for FI and i, we’re going to switch off. one year, we’ll do thanksgiving with his parents, and christmas with mine. the next year, we’ll switch and do thanksgiving with mine and christmas with his. his family is in washington state, mine is in massachusetts. it’s like, a 3000 mile difference.
Post # 6
living the dogs at home for either side isn’t an optio.would make life easier if it was
Driving from one to the other was what i had in mind.
PResents are big in his family no t so much in mine we’ll sort something i’m sure. ( is deffo to many for my house
Post # 7
I’d consider a Christmas brunch/lunch at one place, and a late dinner get together with the other. I did this last year, worked out great.
Post # 8
my SO likes the possibility of two dinners as his parents do dinner at lunch time and mine at abut 7 pm haha i don’t mind driving between the two so maybe that would be the best option
Post # 9
Spend x mas eve with one, and x mas day with the other.