Post # 1
My fiance and I have a joint bank account. Hes always been very thrifty and careful with how and what he spend his money on. Me…on the hand is totally opposite. I spend..basically whatever I have, when i have it. We both dont have any debt what so ever and so..I am use to that freedom. Well…now that we have a joint account i find myself being a little more careful because eventhough I know he will not say anything. I just dont want to put us in a “war over money” type of situation. With this precaution, i am feeling a little overwhelm. Please tell me that this feeling will go away??
Now on to Christmas…He brought me the newest Coach bag..with his OWN money from his account that he had before starting a brand new one with me. He didnt see the point of taking money from “our” account to buy “me” a gift. (very sweet of him) but then it left me feeling so GUILTY because i dont have another account and i used “our” money to buy “him” a gift..Urghh..i hate this feeling…please tell that this feeling will go away??
Beside from this annoying feeling..i had a wonderful christmas with him and my family. I also want to wish all you bees a Merry Christmas!
Post # 3
I kind of feel the same way. This is my first holiday being a Stay-At-Home Wife and feel so guilty about buying him a gift out of the money that he made, but I kept it small and we agreed to make gifts for eachother so that helps alittle.
Just thrilled for you that you had a great holiday with your FH, that is the important part.
Post # 4
@lqcarlson: If your FH is anything like mine, he doesn’t care how you paid for your gifts, etc. We each have our own accounts, but its all “our” money really. As long as you’re honest and not being crazy with the spending, I’m sure he doesn’t mind.
Post # 5
We’ve had joint accounts since we’ve been married a long time. And I’m out of work again-so Oh Well. Merry Christmas to all!!!
Post # 6
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Fiance and I have had a joint bank account for at least a couple of years now, so everything is mixed. To us, it’s not where the money came from, it’s the thought behind it and that we went to the trouble to find something just right. I think the only time he’s paid for something just with his money was my engagement ring… he took a chunk out of his paycheque and not a dime of my actual earned money went into it.