Post # 1
So here I am on Christmas Day being told that I have to invite my soon to be brother inlaws inlaws?? WTF?! He has been with his girlfriend for 2 years and he has one child from a previous marriage, she also has 2 and they have 1 together all of which are in the wedding party as jnr groomsmen and maids and ring bearers and I have just been told that I MUST invite her parents to our wedding…
Now, I don’t get along to well with my sis inlaw after she started HUGE family drama in the last few months driving our whole family appart after 13 years of happy coexistence but we have still made sure all the kids are to be included cuz FH and I are super family driven and they didn’t do anything wrong but in the last few weeks her parents have relocated to our state and in that time have become best friends with my FH parents, housitting while they are away, going out for dinner every other night etc.
because of this I have now been told that I have to invite these people who I don’t really know, who have made me feel like crap the few times I have met them, encouraged their daughter to continually harass me and create drama…. I’m really at a loss for words…..
To put things in a bit of context FH mother has never in the 13 years we have been together asked me to go shopping, for a coffe or just general catch up. His parents have been to our place once in the 9 years we have owned our house. we only see them for family gatherings etc… Oh and they live 11 minutes away!!! if you check my previous post u will see thfuture mumma drama I’ve had since announcing our engagement…
anyway re-reading that it makes no sense cuz theres way to much detail and little things that have happened but I just want to know DO I HAVE TO INVITE THEM??? I’m pretty furious over this.. Please help 🙁
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
You don’t have to invite them unless the people who said that you do are paying for your wedding
Post # 4
@MeiFrancis: thanks that’s what I thought, considering we are paying for the whole thing ourselves it should be our guest list.. But hmmm we will see.. Thanks 😀
Post # 5
You do not have to invite them. It is your guest list and your wedding.
Post # 6
@Smirk23: You do not have to invite them. Tell MIL dearest that the guest list is closed and your decision is final. Tell her the truth: you do not care for these people and your wedding is only for those who give a damn about you.
Make sure you have a hostess at the door to let in only those who are invited are let in.
Post # 7
Why would the in laws even want to come? People are stupid. I say a big “HELL NO!”
Post # 9
I invited my brother in laws parents (my sister’s husband’s parents) to our wedding, BUT they have always been kind to us and are not drama starters. If I were in your shoes, I would say, definitely not!!!
Post # 10
I would say no. What does your FH say?
Post # 11
You don’t have to invite them. However, if it’s a situation with young children and the in-laws might help control the kids while their parents do wedding-related things (pictures, ceremony, etc.), you might want to 😉
Post # 12
Thanks everyone!! Sorry I’ve been delayed in my reply, things are crazy hectic at the moment…
@echolove: Im adamant that I don’t want them there but FH says that to keep the peace I “must” and there will be no further discussion on the matter… So hmmmmhmmmm
Post # 13
I have to as well, but it’s a cultural thing. They weren’t on our list originally, but FI’s mom took him aside and asked why they hadn’t gotten a save the date.
Post # 14
Hmmm….my FSIL had orginally wanted to invite her MIL to “watch her kids” at our wedding (and she is from overseas)…and she said she would pay for her…
BUT, after her long extended stay with FSIL last summer she is now using the wedding as an excuse for her MIL not to come…..
Usually these things work themselves out….stand firm….it is YOUR day and YOU’RE paying…
have you considered telling the people who say you “have to invite them” that they HAVE to pay their PERCENTAGE for attending (not just dinner etc…..divide all wedding costs into how many guests there are)….usually people change their tune…