(Closed) CHRISTMAS IS RUINED!!! Inviting BILs inlaws?? WTF??….. (Long, sorry)

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

You don’t have to invite them unless the people who said that you do are paying for your wedding

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You do not have to invite them. It is your guest list and your wedding.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Smirk23:  You do not have to invite them. Tell MIL dearest that the guest list is closed and your decision is final. Tell her the truth: you do not care for these people and your wedding is only for those who give a damn about you.

Make sure you have a hostess at the door to let in only those who are invited are let in.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why would the in laws even want to come? People are stupid. I say a big “HELL NO!”

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I invited my brother in laws parents (my sister’s husband’s parents) to our wedding, BUT they have always been kind to us and are not drama starters.  If I were in your shoes, I would say, definitely not!!!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would say no. What does your FH say?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You don’t have to invite them. However, if it’s a situation with young children and the in-laws might help control the kids while their parents do wedding-related things (pictures, ceremony, etc.), you might want to 😉

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have to as well, but it’s a cultural thing.  They weren’t on our list originally, but FI’s mom took him aside and asked why they hadn’t gotten a save the date.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Hmmm….my FSIL had orginally wanted to invite her MIL to “watch her kids” at our wedding (and she is from overseas)…and she said she would pay for her…

BUT, after her long extended stay with FSIL last summer she is now using the wedding as an excuse for her MIL not to come…..

Usually these things work themselves out….stand firm….it is YOUR day and YOU’RE paying…

have you considered telling the people who say you “have to invite them” that they HAVE to pay their PERCENTAGE for attending (not just dinner etc…..divide all wedding costs into how many guests there are)….usually people change their tune…

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