- 3 years ago
- Wedding: February 2016
Alright, full disclosure 1) I do love my family very much 2) I realize some of you may think I am a brat or what have you. Its okay, we all have our opinions, I don’t want to fight
So, originally Fi and I were going to bend the truth to atleast spend xmas day alone. Then his parents’ trip was rescheduled and he has to work etc. Without going into a whole side story, we decided that we will have a holiday after the holidays.
Now, I am in school, so to save some cash this semester I am at my parents. I wanted to take the opportunity to save some money before I switch schools.
Now, typically fi and I spend xmas eve with my side. We make an appearance at Dad’s side then on to my Mom’s side. Note, by “apperance” I mean pop in, get seen by everyone, one glass of wine and we’re out of there. Then we head over to the xmas eve hosted by my godmother.
Since, fi will be working(2hrs away) he is not coming. Ok, sad but I still have my godmother’s xmas party with all my aunts, uncles and cousins!! Mom’s side is so much fun. STOP right there, first I have to go to my Dad’s side and they are not fun, it feels very stiff and they are kind of pretentious. They also constantly ask things that are not their business or have a string of never ending follow up questions. If you knew them, you’d understand, its not because they care soooooo much, they are nosey and if they do not agree with your life choices even in the smallest way they have something to talk about.
Now, my parents would be hurt if I went straight to my godmothers thus forcing me to go to Dad’s side. I can’t leave early because I do not drive(only in small city for 1 semester of school, otherwise in big city with subway) and am at the mercy of when my parents want to leave. They stay much longer than I typically do.
To top it off, this year it will be hosted by my Dad’s cousin *Mary*. Each year it alternates between my aunt Maria* and my dad’s cousin Mary*. Now, Mary and Maria have been in competition for as long as I can remember (who was engaged first, who had the better wedding, who has the bigger house, who gets pg first), so it is always interesting to see what happens in the adventures of one upping. Maria is not my favourite aunt, she is entitled and a know it all. She actually fb messaged fi, won’t get in to it but lets ust say it is surprising I did not post about never wanting to speak to her again.
Despite all that, she is no competition for Mary. Mary is the best and lets everyone know it. We are all here to do Mary’s bidding, she once screamed at her husband(then FI) at christmas dinner demanding to know why he left her purse in the car. We found out from a jewlery store that a woman and her fi came in, the woman was very bossy trying to upgrade her ering and the man kept saying, “I can’t afford it Mary”. Sounds like a treat doesn’t? Add to that her kids are the best (her daughter is a doll seriously, no clue how Mary made such a precious child), her fb page is just her rattling off her kid’s achievments and bragging. It is not typical mom “so proud of Sadie’s straight A report card” normal statuses. Mary takes it to another level, with pics, videos and that tone, that tone that can be heard even via text(atleast if you know her) that says “My kids are perfect unlike yours!”
I have to go to this woman’s house for xmas eve and before that I have to see her at mass. Ugh, I know it is not the whole night but its enough. Really, I love my family nd yeah it is true I am so much closer to my Mom’s side, I don’t think that makes me criminal. Truth be told I need to psych myself up before seeing my Dad’s side and mentally prep for the judgement of everything and the fake small talk.
For the last 6 years I have only had to mentally prepare myself to do that for 15-20mins tops. Everything has gone to hell now, I can deal with having to wait a few days to spend the holidays with fi but prolonged time with Dad’s side at MARY”S?! COme on!
If only I had a plan. Godmother would be happy to have me attend church with her then go straight to her house. If only my mom felt bad that my aunt is childfree(not really by choice, she is bi but leans more toward women, like 90-10, she loves kids and gets depressed she doesn’t have any), then I could use it as a “you know aunt penny doesn’t have kids and I am her goddaughter”…
Ugh, sorry about the rant