Christmas registry- Yay or Nay?

posted 2 years ago in Holidays
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

That’s pretty silly. I feel that action is exceedingly gift grabby. I have never heard of this before.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think this is a family thing. We barely ever had Christmas lists growing up, maybe specific books but otherwise my parents got us something and generally it was waayyyy cooler than anything we could have asked to get.  My ILs want an itemized list and will buy directly off it. No thought required. So I have an amazon list for them. I kind of feel like, especially for a kid, knowing what they might need is nice as long as there isn’t some big issue if someone goes off list. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Never heard of this! Although I suppose if you have alot of family members who will buy presents but dont know what to get it could be a good idea. I’d never put it out to friends though. In fairness, I never know what to buy my nieces and nephews – they have so many toys and clothes already, and I always ask their parents who say they dont know what they want. I usually end up guessing and worrying they wont like it so it would be great if they had a registry or list that I could just buy something off. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This is a definite nay for me. But to each her own. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think doing it for yourself, an adult, would be a big no-no and definitely gift grabby. However, if you’ve just had a baby in the past year or you know that people tend to spoil your children at Christmas then maybe having a gift registry for their presents is a good idea. Especially if the grandparents like to buy gifts that have little or no use. You might as well give them suggestions of things that are actually beneficial. Obviously the list doesn’t have to be long nor do they have to buy off it. However, I do think if you’re buying a gift for a child then asking the parents first is a good idea.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think this is super gift grabby. When we were growing up, relatives would ask my mom for suggestions on what to get us if they wanted help. Otherwise, they bought us what they wanted to, and we were taught to be gracious children whether or not we loved the gifts. 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I get it.  Family members are always asking about Christmas gifts for us and DH (who should be telling them mine) keeps getting mixed up who he tells what.  It would be easier if there was one place everyone could go to check it.  Who knows, I might look into a site like that this year.  I would like something like that for certain family members as well.  It’s easy enough to check with my sister to find out what she’s getting my parents, but for other relatives it’s more difficult

I think ‘wish list’ sounds better than Christmas registery, but it’s a similar idea.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think a Christmas Registry in and of itself is a terrible thing – though the name is off-putting.  Usually they are referred to as wish lists.  My family does a gift exchange and we usually ask each other for a list of what a person wants.  I actually have a few running ones online because there are very specific pieces of gear or books I want.  Usually, I use the wish lists to keep track of things for my own use, but I sometimes give them out when people ask me what I want for Christmas or my birthday.  I have a cousin who does this as well.

However, posting it on FB is very gift-grabby.  It’s fine to make a wish list, but you only give it out when asked.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

It kind of makes sense to me. Each person in my family (especially the adults) creates sort of a wishlist (not online, like a registry). That way we don’t get stuff that we don’t want or need. But, I would only give it to someone if they asked. My wedding registry is still online, so I usually just tell them to look there for stuff that DH and I didn’t get. Once the registry goes down, I’ll probably make a list of the things we didn’t get and continue to hand that out to the people who ask. I know some people really like to just surprise people and that’s fine.

Posting on facebook does sound gift-grabby to me too.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  MrsWoods47.
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

No. No. No. No one is required to buy anyone a Christmas gift. If parents want to ask their kids to write out wish lists, great, but the parents should be the only ones who get a copy. The Op’s Facebook friend us beyond greedy. No one needs to buy your infant a Christmas present. Go away. The fact that the major retailers aren’t even pimping Christmas yet makes the friend even greedier. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

No matter the type of event or whether you’re calling it a wish list or a registry or whatever, the rule of thumb I’ve always used is that to offer up a gift list to people who have not, of their own volition, asked after your preferences is always presumptuous and incorrect. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

SundayLove:  It might be a family requested thing.

Each family is different. My family we’ll give rough ideas of what we might need… last year I asked for a new pillow and 3 hole punch- crazy I know! haha, but it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll get what you want.

My FI’s side however is very different. We e-mail a list of exactly what we want to his parents (with links to the items online) then they pick a couple things off of the list and that’s what we get. I thought it was SOOOO weird at first… it’s in line with a registry, but that’s how they’ve always done it and it works the best for them.

To each their own, at least it’s for her baby and not her! haha.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

winterwoodlandbride15:  the difference is, I bet your fi’s parents were the ones who originally asked for these lists, rather than your Fi and his siblings putting the lists together and saying “here, mom and dad, buy this stuff.”

my mother is aging and has mobility challenges and low vision. She started asking a few years ago for our wish lists including item numbers and the number to call to place an order. It makes me really uncomfortable but it’s her wishes. But I can 100% guarantee you that if I sent over a catalog (she doesn’t do online shopping) with the Must Have items circled, she’d burn it, pick up the ashes, put them in a nice box, amd that would be her gift to me.

making a list for other people to buy crap for your kid does not make it any less tacky or greedy.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

RunsWithBears:  Agree completely about posting it on FB!

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