Post # 1
So for awhile now I have been debating with myself to have our wedding during the Christmas season. The reason why, is because both my fiancee and I love the season and also It is a great way to bring everyone together. Now here’s an issue that i’m having while it is a wonderful time to get married, I am worrying that if I did set the date around the season, that it would be kind of rude of me to our guest.
After all, our guest have families of their own, and I don’t want to have a wedding in where it might stop them from seeing them.
I’m oh so confused, can anyone give some advice?
Post # 3
If that’s when you want a wedding then have it then! The people who want to come will come. I don’t find it selfish at all.
Post # 4
I’m getting married 12/21 for the same reasons. I love the holidays it’s all about family and that’s what I wanted our wedding to be about.
We have some family from out of town that comes in for Christmas so it works out for the better in that sense.
As for being an inconvenience, people could make excuses all day long, my fiances family is complaining about his cousin getting married on a big football day for them. There will always be something.
No one has said anything negative about our date, as far as we know.
Post # 5
I think the people who will have the greatest conundrum will be any guests who have to travel. I don’t mind giving up one evening during the holidays, but honestly it would depend on how close we are and where the wedding is being held, whether or not I would attend.
Post # 6
@Sweetpeaontheweddingbee7: I always wanted a Christmas or New Years Eve wedding, just didn’t work out for us!! I say go for it!!!
Post # 7
Oh how delighted it is to hear everyone’s thoughts, I was thinking about it so much and it’s a wonderful holiday. For the most part our family is located in either NY or Connecticut honestly.
Post # 8
The way I look at it is if someone doesn’t really want to go, you are giving them the perfect season to make an excuse in not to go. The people who will be there are those who love you and will enjoy your special day!
Post # 9
We go away as a family for xmas (all 5 siblings, their spouses, their kids, and my parents). We wouldn’t be around for an xmas wedding and even if we were, it is a very busy time and we wouldn’t go. If you are okay with the fact that not everyone will be willing to make time to go, then I say go ahead with it. I’m sure those closest to you will attend.
Post # 10
@Sweetpeaontheweddingbee7: If your family is local and it isnt’ actually ON Christmas (or Christmas Eve) I don’t see a problem with it. I have a million holiday parties to go to in December… a wedding would just be another one. Although, giftwise it might be tough for people. I know I budget down to the penny in December… an extra $100 gift would be difficult for me, but if we were close I’d budget for it.
Another concern is the wedding party. If they are having to shell out for throwing you a shower and their dresses, hair, makeup… all right before Christmas they could get overwhelmed… and we all know that bridal parties become a pain in the best of situations.
Post # 11
@Sweetpeaontheweddingbee7: Have it when you want to have it, but be prepared to accept the fact that more people may decline because it clashes with plans they have with other family who will not be at your wedding. Don’t be one of those Bees who gets resentful about things like that!
Post # 12
We would not go unless we are very close to the couple. As a guest I would be much more likely to go the weekend after Christmas as opposed to the weekend before.
Post # 13
You all do have a good point, Honestly, I think most of you were reading my mind when it comes to budget wise and also how hectic the season is :/
Post # 14
How about a new years eve wedding? I went to one and it was amazing!
Post # 15
I don’t think it’s a good idea. People are planning all sorts of parties and shopping. I personally think it’s selfish to have a party in December when you don’t have to. Not only will people want to get you a gift, but they’d want to get an outfit and other things that cost money.