(Closed) Christmas Wedding…seemingly selfish?

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If that’s when you want a wedding then have it then! The people who want to come will come. I don’t find it selfish at all. 

Post # 4
900 posts
Busy bee

I’m getting married 12/21 for the same reasons. I love the holidays it’s all about family and that’s what I wanted our wedding to be about.


We have some family from out of town that comes in for Christmas so it works out for the better in that sense.


As for being an inconvenience, people could make excuses all day long, my fiances family is complaining about his cousin getting married on a big football day for them. There will always be something.

No one has said anything negative about our date, as far as we know.


Post # 5
45395 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


I think the people who will have the greatest conundrum will be any guests who have to travel. I don’t mind giving up one evening during the holidays, but honestly it would depend on how close we are and where the wedding is being held, whether or not I would attend.

Post # 6
1524 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Sweetpeaontheweddingbee7:  I always wanted a Christmas or New Years Eve wedding, just didn’t work out for us!!  I say go for it!!!

Post # 8
1321 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

The way I look at it is if someone doesn’t really want to go, you are giving them the perfect season to make an excuse in not to go.  The people who will be there are those who love you and will enjoy your special day! 

Post # 9
9693 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

We go away as a family for xmas (all 5 siblings, their spouses, their kids, and my parents). We wouldn’t be around for an xmas wedding and even if we were, it is a very busy time and we wouldn’t go. If you are okay with the fact that not everyone will be willing to make time to go, then I say go ahead with it. I’m sure those closest to you will attend.

Post # 10
7277 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Sweetpeaontheweddingbee7:  If your family is local and it isnt’ actually ON Christmas (or Christmas Eve) I don’t see a problem with it. I have a million holiday parties to go to in December… a wedding would just be another one. Although, giftwise it might be tough for people. I know I budget down to the penny in December… an extra $100 gift would be difficult for me, but if we were close I’d budget for it. 

Another concern is the wedding party. If they are having to shell out for throwing you a shower and their dresses, hair, makeup… all right before Christmas they could get overwhelmed… and we all know that bridal parties become a pain in the best of situations. 

Post # 11
5208 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Sweetpeaontheweddingbee7:  Have it when you want to have it, but be prepared to accept the fact that more people may decline because it clashes with plans they have with other family who will not be at your wedding. Don’t be one of those Bees who gets resentful about things like that! 

Post # 12
7089 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Aquaria:  +1

We would not go unless we are very close to the couple. As a guest I would be much more likely to go the weekend after Christmas as opposed to the weekend before.

Post # 14
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

How about a new years eve wedding? I went to one and it was amazing!

Post # 15
1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t think it’s a good idea. People are planning all sorts of parties and shopping. I personally think it’s selfish to have a party in December when you don’t have to. Not only will people want to get you a gift, but they’d want to get an outfit and other things that cost money.

Post # 16
1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I do like the NYE idea.

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