- 3 years ago
BF’s family (of almost 4 years) is having holiday dinner out of town the weekend before Christmas. For the second year in a row my son (9 yrs) is unable to go because he will be with his father. I have very limited time to take care of my son’s Christmas…that weekend of the holiday dinner, another weekend and a few Wednesdays after work. His mother has changed the time/date twice. I am most frustrated because everyone else is considered in the planning of this event. (Might I add that we are talking to banks about financing for an addition to his home that will result in my so and I living there and sharing a mortgage).
I am partly sad that my son cannot be included and partly mad because I would like to spend that time preparing for Santa.
With that being said, I should also add that up until a year ago he would take off work and go spend a few days with his mom (2hrs away) and a few days with his dad (1.5 hrs away) He is 38. He would tell me that he and his sis (41) needed to have equal time with parents so they wouldnt be angry. There are no grandchildren involved.
Why it is selfish of me to want time to enjoy myself and not spend every waking moment jamming everything in so i can prepare to spend 2 days at this event? P.S. this is not the only event. We still have his dads of town. I’ve also included his sister in my Christmas Eve with my fam and she is also participating in Christmas morning with my BF and son. I am also cooking Thanksgiving dinner at my house for his family only and they are staying the night. is it wrong that I’m upset that my son is not included?