Christmas Without Family

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
Member
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I am sort of on the other side of the coin. We are spending Christmas with my family and not his… which has made him a little sad yet shockingly excited to actually hang out with my family (one would say they don’t quite get along too well). He’s explained to me that he considers them to be his family so in reality he is spending Christmas with his family, just not the whole family. 

Post # 4
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1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hisgirl10:  Yep, I feel your pain. My family is over 300 miles away. I’ll be spending both Thanksgiving and Christmas with FI and his parents, likely. Not that I don’t love them, but nothing beats being with your own family and loved ones. 🙁

Post # 5
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9907 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@hisgirl10:  I remember the first Christmas that I didn’t get to go home and I spent it with FH’s family.  We’d only been dating a little over a year but his family was so welcoming.  They found out that summer that I wouldn’t be going home and immediately invited me to spend Christmas with them.  It was tough not seeing my family but it was nice having somewhere where I felt included.  Now I dread travelling for the holidays, I would much rather stay at home with FH than go anywhere (we flew to see his parents last year…hated every second of the travelling).

Post # 6
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252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@hisgirl10:  We’re spending Christmas with just the two of us, as far as I know. We can only make it back to our home state for Thanksgiving. But I’m pretty adamant that we don’t let it get depressing and come up with some fun stuff for the two of us to do. You and your DH could maybe come up with a special tradition for the two of you before/after you spend the day with his family. That way you’ll both be able to bond over something new and be able to look forward to that in future years. Maybe it will help you feel less sad that you can’t make it to your family’s celebration.

Post # 7
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865 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@hisgirl10:  Yes.  I have no family in this country, and I haven’t had a ‘family’ Christmas since my early 30s…I’m now 45.

In fact, out of the last 8 Christmases, I’ve spent 7 on my own.  I will be this year, as FI is working.  

What makes it harder is all the TV ads that make you feel like a loser if you aren’t with family. 

Post # 8
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hisgirl10:  I feel ya…DH and I will be spending christmas alone this year without any family. I was pretty bummed but we can skype with all our loved ones so not all is lost! Hopefully all of us homesick bees can share next years holidays with our loved ones! 

Post # 9
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975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@hisgirl10:  I had to work last Christmas and was way too busy to spend any time with anyone. Christmas before we spent with my family, new year’s with his. Year before that we were living over seas and worked on Chrismtas. Christmas time is gonna be insane again this year, starting December 21 I won’t have a day off for 3 weeks. We will get up early to open presents Christmas day and probably have a meal with some friends when I get home from work. Other years when I had to work around Christmas I went home afterwards, in January or February and we pretended, kept the tree up, had a big meal, opened some more presents.  

Post # 10
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1235 posts
Bumble bee

WOW! This thread read my mind.. I don’t know exactly what to do about Christmas next year honestly.. I’m selfish because I want to be with my family most!

I should have dated an orphan and not fallen in love with a big family man.. Heheheh! Not that I am making light of an orphan’s situation! 🙁

Post # 11
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1082 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have never spent Christmas away from my family and last year DH spent it with us and loved it. Next year however will probably be with his family, which is fair and they do live on the other side of the world so we see my family more than his, but it will still be weird for me.

Post # 12
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4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My DH and I alternate Thanksgiving and Christmas between our two families (his lives out of state, so we can’t do both in one day or anything like that). Its not that bad. I’d rather be with my DH over anyone else, though I do adore my family.

Post # 13
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2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yup, I haven’t had Christmas with my side of the family in over 7 years.  So I do miss them this time of year the most.  But I do have fun with hubby’s family. 

Post # 14
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1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yeah…I haven’t had Christmas with my family for five years, since before hubby and I even started dating. I prefer it that way.

Post # 15
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3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@hisgirl10:  My family lives 430 miles away and FI’s family is in another country (except for one brother and a few cousins). So neither of us will really have family around. It sucks, but we have each other and there’s always the telephone.

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