Christmastime wedding, when to send save the dates?

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Christmastime wedding, when to send save the dates?

posted 4 years ago in Paper

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Blushing bee

haselwand 12/20/08 Indiana/Las Vegas

I was hoping to call on you Bees to help me decide when to send my save-the-dates.

My wedding will be on December 20, a mere five days before Christmas. My aunt and mother think I should send my save-the-dates asap because of the proximity to the holidays and also because more than half of the guests are out-of-towners.

I know etiquette is at least four months before the wedding. When I mentioned sending them out soon to a friend who is getting married this summer, she seemed surprised. Does nine or ten months before seem ridiculous? Or does it seem practical because of the holidays?

{I haven't designed them yet. I need to get on that because I plan to Gocco them. So much to do!}

4 years ago

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Angel July 15, 2005 Snohomish County, Washington State

With weddings that fall on holidays or busy weeks, you should send them earlier. Not everyone plans ahead, but for those of us with split/rearranged families or are planning a Christmas vacation, having a early heads up is helpful. While I can't say exactly when to send them, I agree it should be sooner than later.

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Yach 10/23/07 CT

For an STD, send them as soon as you have them done to maximize the number of people attending. It is after all, a "Save the Date".

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chrissie

I agree - as soon as possible. This is practical, especially when you consider the cost of travel around the holidays.

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tea norcal

i'd send them out soon too, especially with christmas holiday travel it'd help to get a heads up on plane tickets since they're so expensive during that time of year

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haselwand 12/20/08 Indiana/Las Vegas

Thanks ladies! I don't feel so ridiculous for wanting to send them asap.

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suzanno 7/12/08 Richland, WA

I think its especially important to give people lots of notice for dates around the holidays!! Because, on the one hand, people will have time off and should be able to attend - but, on the other hand, people will have time off and so may be making other plans. Some people plan their vacation time waaaaay in advance; some people may have to juggle family commitments elsewhere in order to attend and so will need to start thinking about that. And yes, holiday travel is a nightmare. I would let everybody know as soon as possible!

Just as a data point - my sister let me know early last November that she was having her daughter baptised the Sunday before Christmas. (So about 8 weeks.) Round trip airfare from here to there was already over $1200. And that left two whole days to get back - impossible if flights are delayed due to weather. It was kind of heartbreaking, but I didn't go. You have a little more time if folks have to get back home before Christmas, so that's good.