Chubby bride is getting married in five weeks !!!!! Failing at weight loss

posted 3 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I feel for you – losing weight can be so hard! Just remember that your partner fell in love with you as you are now, so don’t make yourself totally miserable and crazy trying to lose weight before the wedding! Just do what you can, and remember that you will look gorgeous no matter what happens, because all brides look stunning on their special day!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I feel for you because I am in a VERY similar situation.  Honestly, the more you stress about it, the worse things may get. Well that’s what I’ve found anyway, my body literally turns stress to kgs! How are your alterations going? I was stressed about mine but my dress still fit and the seamstress pointed out that the few kgs I’ve put on since October (most went on between May and then) hadn’t changed the fit of the dress much – her advice was that too many people try to crash diet in the final weeks and end up looking not as good because their dress doesn’t fit them properly. Her advice to me was to stay where I’m at now and let the dress fit like a glove and i’ll look better for it!

I just want to add… It is SO hard when health/medical crap gets in the way of weight loss goals. It’s so incredibly frustrating, and even more so because people like your *friend* just don’t understand. That’s what I’m struggling with right now. My doctors have told me that the weight gain is expected given what I’ve been dealing with & that things could actually be worse.  I know that, my immediate family know that, but yet i’m still stressing that everyone else is just going to see the weight gain. That feeling of shame & disappointment is eating me alive – even when I know there are perfectly good reasons behind it.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Dont know what your diet is like but I went paleo for a month (well rough paleo, I ate rice and sweet potatoes and ate dark chocolate) but I lost 2 kilos a week and the only exercise I did was walking. I need to go back to it but it was a hassle cooking separate stuff for myself over FI and DD. I’m sure you’ll look amazing if and whatever you lose 🙂 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

The bad news:  The vast majority of people cannot lose substantial amounts of weight and keep it off, no matter what they do.  And the maximum for healthy weight loss is 1-2 lbs. a week.  With only 5 weeks to go, you just don’t have the time to lose enough weight in any healthy way for it to be obvious on your wedding day.

The good news:  He chose you as you are now.  There is no mandate for you to achieve a certain weight loss by the wedding–or ever.  Focus on enjoying your wedding day.  If you want to make changes after that for health reasons, fine, but don’t impose a deadline.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Cardio. A lot of it. And try to eat healthier. For example, less oil, no sweets, more veggies and protein, and only whole grain bread. I also take Apple Cider Vinegar pills:

 

 

I take it two times a day before meals. I am not trying to lose weight curently, but it helps me maintain my weight when I am super busy and don’t have time to workout. 

 

I don’t know if 5 weeks will be enough, but it might help. Although, if you have your wedding dress already, I am not sure it’s a good idea to lose weight 🙂

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@allybee2013:  one other thing, I’d be worried with what optifast might do to your blood sugar. I have a friend with type 1 diabetes who had to do it before surgery and had to give it up because it was causing havoc with her body.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Don’t worry about a thing. I was hoping to lose a ton of weight before my wedding and it didn’t happen. I had an amazing day regardless and so will you. Your hubby loves you for you – sometimes us girls forget that. You need to love yourself too, no matter what the scale says.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

@allybee2013:  While I’m in no way an advocate for unhealthy weight loss options or “quick fixes” sometimes it is necessary. Let me preface by saying that I have lost 100 lbs. using WW over the past 3 years and it has stayed off, so for long term success, I highly suggest you go that route. HOWEVER, for a situation like yours and needing it in a short amount of time…I suggest the Suja juice cleanse. It lasts for 3 days and consists of only 6 juices per day and it’s kind of costly ($150) but it definitely works…I lost 11 lbs. in 3 days! Again, not a practical, long term option but good for a quick fix! **Be advised** Eat clean and healthy before starting or you will get flu like symptoms and feel super sick!! Good Luck, hope this helps!

xo

p.s. you can purchase at whole foods or online

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I agree about going Paleo, I have been doing it for 17 days so far and lost 8 lbs.  Cutting out the bread, pasta, etc was huge for me!  I am feeling pretty great so far.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

If your dress fits now, don’t put yourself through a horrible crash diet. Your FI loves you and wants to marry you how you are.

To look your best, stick to your healthy eating, especially portion control, maybe add some weights to the cardio, to get a little more toned. A great tip is to make sure you don’t press your arms against your sides in the photos. 

I would think long term and try to get the high insulin under control so you can have a healthy future. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

First of all, please give yourself a huge hug and tell yourself that you are not chubby.

When nothing seems to work for you, it means you have hit a plateau. You need to change your exercise routine.

Everyone has different metabolism rates.

Cardio is great for fat burn, but there’s nothing like resistance training or strength training to help tone muscles! I used to do just cardio, but once I started doing Pilates or a combination of weight training, I’ve been toning up while building resistance — i.e. needing heavier weights for a 3 set of 6 to 10 reps. (This is what I mean about changing your exercise routine because muscles have their own memory)

Target carbs is usually not a good practice — there’s difference between eating natural carbs and eating refined carbs (like bread/pasta). Cheat days are a great way to break a plateau period.

While Paleo is great, it is also important not to do a complete change altogether because once you are on Paleo, it’s really hard to go back. (Do like 80% Paleo-20% non-Paleo)

Don’t listen to your friend about starting earlier. It’s never too late to start living to be stronger and healthier now! Good luck!

Post # 14
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Worker bee

I feel for you OP. I have gained weight substantially the last few years, mostly because of my PCOS and insulin resistance. While I agree that many people cannot lose weight and keep it off- I disagree that this applies to “most” people- I have known many people throughout my lifetime who have lost weight and kept it off for good. 

I saw my GP about my lack of weight loss with diet and exercise due to insulin resistance- he gave me the option of Metformin (A drug given to type 2 diabetes) and said that would help with weight loss- if you are insulin resistant this will likely work. The other option my GP gave me was to try the 2:5/fast diet. He said the medical evidence supporting this diet is good and many people with underlying medical conditions such as insulin resistance have had success. I tried this diet and have lost 5kg in four weeks!! While I realise if I ceased the diet now I would simply re-gain the weight, if I lose enough weight, my metabolism should theoretically re set itself to be normal again as it is the excess weight that causes insulin resistance and type 2 diabetes. In addition I am working out training with heavy weights and cardio to build more muscle (which in turn increases metabolic rate) and once I get to a good weight I plan to continue the fasting diet or do 1:6 ie fasting one day a week and eating six days a week. 

I strongly suggest you talk to your GP about these options- having insulin resistance can make weight loss IMPOSSIBLE, literally, and it is a legitimate medical condition that unfortunately thrives on a vicious cycle of weight gain.

i wish you the very best of luck- feel free to PM me of you have any questions- I know a lot about insulin resistance and I am also a health professional.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Cut out bread, pasta, rice and sugar. I lost 4.5 kgs in a month when I did this with no exercise. I had to fit into a bridesmaid dress which was made too small. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Lissandra:  I do the fast diet! I fast on Mondays and Thursdays (500 calories each of those days) and eating a bit healthier on the days in between. I find it’s the only diet I’m able to stick to because it’s only 2 days a week.

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