Post # 1
I am Jewish and my fiance is not. We’re having a pretty Jewish ceremony performed by a cantor who specializes in interfaith marriages. I’m not very religious but it was important for me to honor my relatives with some Jewish traditions. My fiance doesn’t care either way nor does his family.
I’ve been kind of stressing about making a chuppah when I visited our venue and saw the attached arch that we are free to use in anyway that we’d like. I was thinking I could just drape some sheer fabric over the top, add some flowers, and voila – a sorty of chuppah.
I know it’s far from traditional but do you think it would be suitable enough to honor the tradition and not offend anyone? Thanks!
Post # 3
@jjfad778: a chuppah is supposed to be 4 poles with open walls reprenting the home and welcoming people into it.
that being said, it is the idea of tradition. you are already having a non-traditional jewish wedding because you aren’t marrying someone jewish.
i went to ollie’s and spent $25 on a pop-up tent to use as our chuppah.
because we wanted to get married before sundown, FI and I shopped around for a Reform rabbi who would marry us. My conservation rabbi would not. I also do not know if he would have approved of our chuppah, but it doesn’t matter now.
Your arch way will be a beautiful place to be married under. If you are concerned, ask the cantor marrying you if it matters.
I’m sure none of the family members will be offended by it.
Post # 4
The only thing that’s really nontraditional is that it looks like the “wall” on one side is partly filled in, whereas usually all four walls are open. However, a chuppah is actually just a tradition, not part of Jewish law. (The Jewish legal requirements are the ketubah, the ring (or other item of value), and cohabitation (symbolized by Yichud).) Moreover, if the cantor is willing to perform an interfaith marriage, s/he is likely flexible on other requirements. So I would recommend consulting with the cantor on whether the structure you’re thinking about would be acceptable as a chuppah.
@ajillity81: I’m amused that you are using a popup tent. I thought we were the only ones who did that. Actually, I just used the frame from a popup tent, and made my own cover for it:
Post # 5
@2dBride: we are also using just the structure of the pop up tent. we are using my great grandmother’s veil, it’s 10ft long, as the covering.
Post # 6
I think that will be fine and look beautiful. the only thing is it doesn’t look big enough for you all to stand under.