Chuppah vs. slightly chuppah-like structure…

posted 3 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@jjfad778:  a chuppah is supposed to be 4 poles with open walls reprenting the home and welcoming people into it.

that being said, it is the idea of tradition.  you are already having a non-traditional jewish wedding because you aren’t marrying someone jewish.

i went to ollie’s and spent $25 on a pop-up tent to use as our chuppah.

because we wanted to get married before sundown, FI and I shopped around for a Reform rabbi who would marry us.  My conservation rabbi would not.  I also do not know if he would have approved of our chuppah, but it doesn’t matter now.

Your arch way will be a beautiful place to be married under.  If you are concerned, ask the cantor marrying you if it matters. 

I’m sure none of the family members will be offended by it.

Post # 4
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3432 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

The only thing that’s really nontraditional is that it looks like the “wall” on one side is partly filled in, whereas usually all four walls are open.  However, a chuppah is actually just a tradition, not part of Jewish law.  (The Jewish legal requirements are the ketubah, the ring (or other item of value), and cohabitation (symbolized by Yichud).)  Moreover, if the cantor is willing to perform an interfaith marriage, s/he is likely flexible on other requirements.  So I would recommend consulting with the cantor on whether the structure you’re thinking about would be acceptable as a chuppah.

@ajillity81:  I’m amused that you are using a popup tent.  I thought we were the only ones who did that.  Actually, I just used the frame from a popup tent, and made my own cover for it:

Post # 5
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@2dBride:  we are also using just the structure of the pop up tent.  we are using my great grandmother’s veil, it’s 10ft long, as the covering.

 

Post # 6
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think that will be fine and look beautiful. the only thing is it doesn’t look big enough for you all to stand under. 

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