Church ceremony-no singing?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
271 posts
Helper bee

Ugh. I am not super religious , neither is my husband now, so we wanted the ceremony to be quick and not too much “religion” ( It was in a church, but we didn’t want it OVERLY religious, if that makes sense lol. 


We had a 20 minutes ceremony in the church. Vows, ring exchange, left.

No readings, no singing, no mass. That is it. 

To this day, our friends still rave about the wedding and one of the things they say it ” we loved your short ceremony!”


I don’t think you are crazy for not wanting it. I find it to be awkward. You feel “obligated” to sing a song you never heard before.. I dunno. Not for me. 


Post # 4
271 posts
Helper bee

imagine8204:  Just lie and say you are too stressed to coordinate songs. or tell her you will think about it and just never get back to her. Don’t feel pressured. If her concern is “boredom” reiterate how great your readings are…… good luck!

Post # 5
3649 posts
Sugar bee

No one has to sing anything. If you think the silence would be too much, just have the organist play something.

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