Post # 1
I’m having a church wedding but one problem (to my mother in law) we don’t realky want any singing during the ceremony. We are doing a unity cross, which the pastor will explain as we are doing it. So there won’t be an awkward silence while lighting the candle. My mil thinks that songs help with transitions, while I think that they are boring and unless the person you ask to sing is amazing, people tend to find it awkward.
i know you will probably respond by telling me that it’s my wedding, do what I want. And I agree. But I would like to hear from other brides who had a church wedding and didn’t have singing in the middle. Am I crazy for not wanting any?
Post # 2
Ugh. I am not super religious , neither is my husband now, so we wanted the ceremony to be quick and not too much “religion” ( It was in a church, but we didn’t want it OVERLY religious, if that makes sense lol.
We had a 20 minutes ceremony in the church. Vows, ring exchange, left.
No readings, no singing, no mass. That is it.
To this day, our friends still rave about the wedding and one of the things they say it ” we loved your short ceremony!”
I don’t think you are crazy for not wanting it. I find it to be awkward. You feel “obligated” to sing a song you never heard before.. I dunno. Not for me.
Post # 3
yellow7404: thank you! We are going to have readings. but she keeps texting me the names of ceremony songs and they are just so boring and cheesy and not me. I just feel like I’m being pressured to do something I don’t want to do and your back up helps me feel better 🙂
Post # 4
imagine8204: Just lie and say you are too stressed to coordinate songs. or tell her you will think about it and just never get back to her. Don’t feel pressured. If her concern is “boredom” reiterate how great your readings are…… good luck!
Post # 5
No one has to sing anything. If you think the silence would be too much, just have the organist play something.