Post # 1
hiya sorry more advice needed
my fiance is a vicar (Church of England) and I’m an Atheist – I want to get married in the registry office and Simon wants to have it done in a church (for obvious reasons) but we’ve both said that if it really came down to it we would go for either if it made the other happy. The office is booked but obviously Simon could book his own church really quickly if needs must.
just wondering people own opinions on what we should do and how other people feel on the old church v office debate??
Post # 3
What about going totally out of the box and choosing a neutral location, like a garden, art gallery, restaurant, etc? Sounds like you both have the right attitude in regards to what matters to both of you, I think there’s definitely a compromise that will work.
We’re personally getting married in a totally untraditional venue – an architectural artifacts retail shop – but we are both atheists, so no church was an easy decision!
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I like lilyfaith’s suggestion of a neutral venue! That way no one feels like they aren’t getting what they want, and you’re both compromising on the venue.
Post # 5
Oh, is this a British thing, where you can only get married in either the registry office or a church? (sometimes I watch Dr. Who with the FI.) Americans can generally get married anywhere, it’s the officiant that makes it legal, not the place. We talked about the church as well (FI is Catholic; I am agnostic), but ultimately decided on getting married outside.
Post # 6
I think in Britain it is possible to get married in other places but they have to have some official bumph. Simon suggested this orchard that the vicarage sort of backs on to which I loved the idea of but then common sense kicked in and I suddenly thought “september” “Oxford” “RAIN!!” and freezing!!!! and then do we use a registrar or vicar….. oh God it’s all so stressful!!!
Why wasn’t i sensible and chose a nice atheist 🙂
(oh and by the by Olive25 its lovely to hear that Dr Who has fans across the pond!!!!! I’m such a geek, Simon has been known rearrange parishioners meetings to fit in with our Whovian telly schedule!)
Post # 7
Goodness, I didn’t know it was that difficult in England! I guess I take it for granted here that as long as the officiant is approved, the location is up to the couple.
Hm, yeah, speaking as a Chicago native (our weather is notoriously cold, rainy, windy, and unpredictable in the fall as well. and, well, all year round.) outside may not be best.
I guess I’m no help but my FFIL looooves Dr. Who! They just got expanded television channels, and he has BBC so he can watch it all the time now.
Post # 8
Fantastic I assumed that Dr who was just a British thing but if its spreading then I’m over the moon!!! but if you’re all American then does that mean I’m the only one who’s seen the new Matt Smith reincarnation?????
and I’m pleased that its not just Britain that suffers with the impractical weather!!