Post # 1
So, there’s this one lady in our church that always hosts bridal showers for those in the congregation, and has hosted all of my FI’s siblings showers, and has been planning on hosting a shower for us (which wouldn’t be until May of June-so there’s time). Recently, they’ve decided to stop coming to our church for whatever reason, but still offered to host the shower, but wouldn’t be upset if we decided for her to not host.
My FI is against having her host the shower, b/c he thinks that the church shower should be hosted by someone that goes to the church, not someone who used to go to the church. His mom doesn’t really care or see anything wrong with it, and I’m on the fence. I see both sides of it, but I’m not sure what I want to do. My FI won’t be mad either way, but I’m not really sure what to tell her.
What would you do?
Post # 3
Did she leave the church on bad terms? What do the other ladies of the church think? I think as long as she invites all the ladies of the church, it shouldn’t really be a problem. She may have chossen to no longer attend, but that doesn’t mean you can’t associate with her & I think it’s really nice of her to offer. But if you really don’t want her to do it, is there someone else offering to host? Maybe you could just invite her as a guest.
Post # 4
I’m not really sure why she left, it wasn’t on bad terms. Just for personal reasons that I’m not sure of. My FI doesn’t think she should host because she hasn’t come in 5 months at this point, and the shower will be in another 5 months or so. I haven’t seen her in that time, so my FI thinks that since we don’t see them she shouldn’t host (not a great reason, but w/e). I see both sides, and while it’s just easier to say yes, it might be nice for someone else to get the chance to step up and do it. No one else has offered, but this woman does all of the church showers. I think I would just talk to FI’s mom & have her mention it. I think I’m going to tell her no and have FI’s mom ask around or mention it.