Post # 1
My Fiance is Catholic, while I was raised Lutheran. We’re getting married in my childhood hometown, but it would mean a lot to him if we were married in a Catholic church. We went to a mass last weekend at a Catholic church in the city we’re getting married in and really enjoyed it. The church is happy to marry us and everything seems like it would work out pretty well.
EXCEPT, they have another wedding already scheduled for our planned wedding day. That wedding is scheduled at noon and they’re offering to let us get married at 3pm.
Has anyone else dealt with this? I just think that 3 hour time window is way too short for comfort, especially when you consider that the other couple will likely be having a full Catholic mass (we cannot because I am not Catholic). Assuming the service starts on time, the mass will take an hour or a little more, and then they’re likely to have a receiving line, etc, and it will inevitably take a bit for the guests to clear out of the church, for decorations to be taken down, etc. I worry that we’ll be pressed for time and that our guests will be arriving while guests from the first wedding are still there. Also, I think that this will really put a time crunch on getting pictures done before the ceremony if we choose to go that route.
Opinions on this?
Post # 3
I think it will be okay. The church probably wouldn’t offer that timeslot unless the noon ceremony would be cleared out by then. Since you’re concerned, can you ask the priest what would be the average time that it would take for the first ceremony from start until everyone leaves? Most churches do a lot of weddings, so they should have a good idea of the amount of time required. You should also ask about decorating for your ceremony. What time will you be able to start decorating the church for your wedding? Also, does the previous bride have a time limit for when everything has to be out of the church?
Post # 4
Masses usually last about an 1 hr 30 min. Three hours is plenty of time for the first ceremony to be done, including the respective pictures with the bride and groom.
Post # 5
@Alexbrun: I’m referring to wedding Masses here.
Post # 6
The way my church schedules weddings… is one at noon and another at 2pm. There is plenty of time. All the wedding masses I’ve been to lasted just barely over an hour. They constantly have multiple weddings on saturdays. That’s just how it is.
ps as for recieving lines.. our church told us to do it at the reception due to time constraints (mine is the 2pm mass and we have to be out nlt 4 for confession and saturday night mass)
Post # 7
It’s not an atypical practice. They often actually encourage brides to work together on decorations to save money and time. Perhaps you can talk to the other bride and figure out mutual colors?
Post # 8
Thanks for the responses, everyone.
It may be a moot point in the end as we don’t think we can use the music that we want to for the ceremony. I want to walk down the aisle to a very classic but not religious song, and apparently the Catholic church is not so amenable to that idea.
Our alternative is to get married in my parents’ church, but we would essentially be getting married in a gym, complete with basketball hoops and everything.