Post # 1
After seeing another post earlier I’m in a bit of a freakout mode. I’m scheduled for a church wedding but I’m wondering if we are going to have any issues since my FI and I live together. I haven’t straight up asked them if it would be a problem since I’m pretty sure the Pastor knows from my mother. I’m not Catholic so I was wondering if this is just a catholic church thing or if there is a pattern? Thanks Bees!
Post # 3
I don’t think they would refuse you… they may frown apon it but I doubt they would refuse to let you get married there.
Post # 4
I know that my church and any of the churches I have attended in the past or through friends would not marry a couple who is living together… Our pastor also did our premarital counseling and was up front about it. That being said, co-habitating couples get married by someone all the time, and some of those officiants are probably pastors. I think it’s best to ask?
Post # 5
@commoshin: I’ll definitely ask, it just didn’t cross my mind before today! I don’t know why I didn’t think about it sooner.
Post # 6
Im protestant and my fiance is catholic, out of respect for his family we are getting married in the catholic church. We have been together for just over 5 years and lived together for 4 and a half….the priest has no problem marrying us. In fact he is happy we are finally getting married! haha
Post # 7
@Pupperoni: We’re both Catholic, and maybe you might be referring to a thread I started?? I hope not, I didn’t want anyone to worry!
That being said, I truly believe it depends on the priest that will be officiating. I’ve heard some couples say that their priest was more laid back about it (as ours was), and some that feel you shouldn’t be living together before the big day. If you’re doing pre-marital counseling beforehand, you will be asked this question. I was worried about it initially as well seeing as how we’ve lived together 4+ years. Ultimately it was more important to me to be honest about our living situation, and I was surprised by the reaction (or lack thereof) that I received.