Post # 1
As I was driving into work today I realized how much I dislike being in the city. I work in the city which is roughly the most populated city in our state with a population of about 70,000. Today on my way into work, there were 2 car accidents, a power line that somehow came down and knocked out power to the traffic lights at 4 major intersections, and train! I made me love the country way of life so much more.
I was born and raised in the country, we went to public schools that were in the city but still very small, my graduating class had 107 students. DH on the other hand was born and raised in the city, his graduating class had about 1,000 kids in it!
It’s funny to think of but I think DH has lost his city boy ways. We live out in the country now and we love it (him especially) I remember when we first started dating DH use to not understand a lot of the things my family did but now he doesn’t even bat an eye when we go to my grams for dinner and it’s all been cooked with a wood stove. I never once thought he would turn into a quilted flannel wearing, hunting and fishing type of guy. It never mattered to me either way, but I think we are both equally happy and comfortable in the life we live now.
Have any other bees had the same thing happen? Have you or your SO naturally throughout the course of your relationship morphed from a city lover to a country lover or vice versa?
Post # 3
we’re both city people through and through, but sometimes wish we weren’t just so we wouldn’t have to deal with such a high cost of living (it would be nice to buy a house at some point, and we won’t be able to afford that in our area for a LONG time). we would never survive in the country though!
Post # 4
At this point in our lives, we spend most of our time in the city- work, social, shopping, etc.
I love the variety, the energy, the people, all of it. But I do appreciate visiting my parents in the “country” for some quiet but I tend to feel a little stir crazy after awhile.
Post # 5
FI is from boston. His family moved down to south carolina a few years ago. NC has always been my home and though we are not too far from the city i think we both want to live further out with lots of land 🙂
Post # 6
I think you need a ‘burbs option? I’m not really sure where that fits. Both FI and I grew up in very rural/country areas and neither of us are a fan. I thought I wanted a real “city” but then I lived in one and I didn’t care for it. Now we live in Columbus, which is still a city but its smaller than the big cities and we live in the suburbs, which we love. Living in a nice neighborhood but being only 20 minutes from downtown is basically our ideal. But I’m hesitant to say we’re “city” because we don’t live downtown or take public transit or anything like that.
Post # 7
@CorgiTales: I agree with this. We both prefer living in a suburban area so that we’re close enough to go into the city but live a little bit further out.
Post # 8
@PinkPinstripes:That’s how DH was at first when we woud go to my parents house.. lol He would get weirded out that there really isn’t much out there! I remember when I was little I use to say all the time that I would live in the city when I grew up so that the streets wouldn’t be dark at night!
Post # 9
I was, for the most part, raised in country with close proximity to a city. In my teens and 20’s I was hell bent on living either in or very close to a city. Now that I’m older (38), I find that all I want is a nice cottage type home on a 2-3 acres with my closest neighbor 1-2 acres away from me. I just love the country so much more. The peace and quiet. My husband is the same way. We currently live in the ‘burbs but my dream is what I just described above.
Post # 10
You should have this be multiple choice 🙂
I grew up in the country on an old farm (though we never seriously kept any animals) and always longed for the city when I was younger/a teen.
However, with excessive travel, college life & etc, I quickly realized that I do not really like the city. I like the idea of the city (so much to see/do, amenities, culture etc) but it just is not for me.
My partner grew up in Calgary Alberta, and even 20 or so years ago he said there was insane urban sprawl & that he can remember it taking hours to get anywhere/do anything.He hated it so much that when he moved to North Western Ontario he couldn’t bring himself to move back to AB with his mom. College in a city only further entrenched his dislike.
We both dislike the city & both like the country, though in a perfect world we would live somewhere (country) that was still close (2 or so hours) to an urban center.
Post # 11
we both grew up in the suburbs .. well he was more in the country suburbs, in a college town near the beach. I grew up in a suburbs about 20 min from the city. I’m moving to his town, and i can’t believe there isn’t 2 malls with in 5 min of his house … but he’s alot closer to the beach!
Post # 12
Sizzle – are you talking about the lights being out at Morrill’s Corner in Portland by any chance? LOL, if so, I had to deal with that on my morning commute too! If not, whoa we totally had the same morning, complete with the train – weird!
I grew up in Seattle (not in the ‘burbs, but in the city itself), and my husband grew up in Long Beach, CA. In high school, my fam moved to a teeny town in central Maine. My middle school in Seattle had twice as many people as my high school, which pulled from like 5 area towns.
My husband did his undergrad through PhD at UC Berkeley – and we’re both “city” people through and through. The city we live in is small, but it has a lot going on, and we would move out of state before moving out of Portland and into a country setting.
Post # 13
You should add a choice “I love the suburbs but SO likes the city”
Post # 14
When i think of “country”, i think of where my folks live. It’s so white trash! My parents live out in the country….i HATE that place!!! Blah. We’re talking 30 minutes to the nearest Walmart. It’s a teeny little town! I’m sure there are nice ‘country’ places, though…just not any i’ve personally lived in.
I prefer a suburb of a city–within a 30 minute radius is good for me.
Post # 15
I have always been a huge fan of the suburbs! I like being close to the city, and close to shopping or anything I need. I like having a gas station 1/4 mile away from my house, I like being able to walk to the grocery store if I need to, I like neighborhoods with sidewalks and lots of families.
I don’t like living IN the city because of the traffic, crime, older run-down buildings. I also don’t like how home prices skyrocket just because you are located in downtown. The city also tends to get dirtier and when it snows, it gets really messy and the beautiful snowscape is completely ruined by all of the cars.
I don’t have any desire to live in the country, because I don’t want to have a house in the middle of nowhere, I don’t want a lot of land, I don’t want to have to make a day out of shopping just because I am so far away from the in-town shopping. I don’t like hunting or fishing. If the road ices over, you are stuck until it thaws.
I like that everyone has their own preferences. I like that there are some people who like the city, some who like the country, some who like old history and charm, some that prefer newer turn-key things. I personally love modern conveniences. My best friend and I are like polar opposites, she longs for the country life and I just strive for the time when I can buy my larger(1500+ sf) house in a neighborhood with a big stone entrance bearing the name, just minutes from the nearest target, walmart or Old Navy.
Post # 16
DF and I live in Australia, and my FIL’s live on a farm, in rural australia. They live hours away from the nearest town and it’s nice to visit for a holiday but after 3 days I get bored. It is too far for me to handle, you can’t get away from the house and there is never much to do. It’s hot and there are too many flies!
I guess I am just a city girl through and through, lol.