Civil Ceremony before the wedding

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We had a small ceremony the day before our big ceremony and celebration with just our immediate family and a few close friends. We did it so that our marriage could be recognized in the church, though, so it was a big different. However, it was wonderful! I loved how intimate it was. We did traditional vows during the intimate ceremony and write our own for the big one. We also made sure our guests knew that we had been officially married the day before. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We’ve thought about it, but it’s more for the logistics of marrying 3000 miles away!!!  It sounds nice!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it’s totally fine. My sister did this (had a legal marriage the day before the family wedding) and it worked out great for her. They wanted to have the ceremony without a celebrant so they needed to do it legally beforehand. Nobody minded and it was a lovely day.

Post # 5
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Wannabee

Arrowchan:  Thanks Arrowchan – could you possibly let me know more about what your sister did at the ceremony without a celebrant, as we’re hoping to do the same?

Our situation is that we’re getting legally married in Australia with a very small official ceremony, but then having a bigger celebration in the UK (where I’m from), so that we can include everyone.

We were going to have some kind of ring ceremony as part of the UK celebrations, but our venue have just said they’re not ‘licensed’ for this, even though it wouldn’t be a legally binding. It sounds like, as long as there’s no celebrant, it’s ok with them and they won’t be in breach of their lease etc, so we’re having a think about how we could do a nice ceremony to exchange rings and say nice things in front of all our UK friends and family, but without a celebrant.

I’d love to hear what your sister did, to help get the creative ideas flowing!

Thank you 🙂 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

beefree:  Hi! Sorry to take so long to get back to you, I haven’t been around here much!

Basically, they just walked down the aisle together, spoke their vows to each other and exchanged rings, then a friend stood up and introduced them as man and wife. It was short and sweet. My only reservation about recommending it is that I think it puts a lot of pressure on the couple to remember the wording. My sister forgot a line partway through and got a bit freaked out, heh. (It was fine, but a bit awkward for a while.) If you do go down that route, I would recommend that you have a cheat sheet in your pocket just in case.

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