Post # 1
Recently I have found that many brides have been planning not just a day, but a whole weekend that revolves around their wedding. For example, I know of one bride who is requesting that her BMs take the day off before the wedding for manis, pedis, lunch, etc. then rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. The next day, of course, is dedicated to the wedding. Breakfast in the morning, getting ready, wedding, reception, and then a post party after the reception ends. Then, Sunday morning, a brunch planned for the bridal party bright and early.
This has me wondering, is this normal to request a whole weekend out of your bridal party, or does this seem a tad over zealous?
Post # 3
I think its a cute idea 🙂 If I had the money I would of loved to do something like that – however, I would only dedicate my whole weekend to a close friend’s wedding – not just anyone.
But I REALLY love weddings – so this may be the reason that I love the idea of a “wedding weekend”
Post # 4
I’ve never had anyone do this in my circle before, but I wouldn’t be opposed to attending all those events if it were one of my very close friends. Not so much for just an acquaintance. I would look at it as a chance to hang out with our entire group of friends, since a lot of them are in the military or are out of state.
Post # 5
If we’re talking about just the bridal party– I think its cute! I wish I had the money to treat my friends to manis, pedis, and lunch on the rehearsal day! Supposedly these are your closest friends, wanting to spend one weekend with them during which you treat them to all of these things? I think it sounds great! (Now, I would feel differently if they were expected to shell out money all weekend long).
Post # 6
Is she requesting or demanding? There’s a big difference between telling your girls they must get manis on Friday and treating them as a thank you gift. Nothing you listed seems outrageous to me as long as the bride is understanding if the girls have to miss one or more of the events.
Post # 7
I plan on doing a brunch the morning after with only family and my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 8
I think it’s normal to request the whole weekend, but I don’t really agree with it. I have some things that I am planning just in case some people WANT to hang out but it’s optional. Now the rehearsal, reahearsal dinner is not optional…but I don’t plan on doing any after party OR after the wedding brunch. The wedding is about all the socializing I plan on doing that weekend. That’s tiring enough.
Post # 9
I actually like the idea. When I get married, a lot of guests and probably half of my bridal party will come from out of town, so I think it would be nice to schedule things for them to do, instead of making them travel all this way and then leave them hanging.
Post # 10
My friend did this when I was in her wedding last summer. Unfortunetly, it was on 4th of July weekend so I wasn’t able to attend the first day of her weekend. But she did spa day with the girls the day before (she didn’t pay, it was up to us. And for her, I would have done it), we started getting ready the day of super early because there was 1 hairdresser for 10 ladies, and the next day her parents hosted a breakfast at their home. Many people traveled so the breakfast ended up being for a lot of people.
Post # 11
I’m treating my bridal party to mani/pedi/relaxation on the Friday of the wedding weekend (that is going to be the bridal luncheon)…but I cleared it with them first that they would be able to take off work without issue (two work, and two do not work), and they didn’t seem to be bothered by it.
We don’t have anything planned for Sunday, though.
Post # 12
We are kind of doing a “whole weekend” thing for our wedding. The rehearsal and rehearsal dinner (wedding party and out-of-town family) will be Thursday night, wedding is Friday evening, probably gonna go out to the bar after the wedding with our best friends (reception ends at 11 PM), and my mom is having a party at her house on Saturday.
I’m not demanding that anybody come to extra events, but I’m really excited about being able to offer a few days of good times to our friends and family, especially since many of them are travelling a lot for my wedding.
Post # 13
I think it depends on your situation. I have a lot of people travelling from out of town. We’re hosting an open house at our first home (yay) the night before the Rehearsal Dinner. We’re inviting immediately family only, and keeping it very casual. The BM luncheon is the day of the Rehearsal Dinner, and the next day is the wedding.
I think if you have family/close friends travelling from far away it’s a nice idea.
Post # 14
Really the only thing I am asking if for the wedding party to be at the Rehersal and wedding/reception/dance part. Other than that if the girls want to get their nails done with me the day before I have no problem with that.
Post # 15
I would never ask them to take off work, but I did have the weekend planned. Friday we had dinner and then temple for the aufruf (Jewish blessing), sat. we went to get mani and pedis (I asked if they would like to join me and they all said yes) and then a rehearsal brunch and then off to the hotel/venue to put together the centerpieces and have dinner, and then sunday was the wedding. It was nice having so much girl time with them!
Post # 16
It is pretty normal in my area to request the bridal party/ groomsmen do things together–but it has always been done with the understanding that if people have other obligations that they aren’t being forced to participate.
For example, the last wedding I was in there was a pancake brunch for the entire wedding party the Friday before followed by manicures/pedicures for the girls, because it was on a Friday I had to miss two events because I was OOT/working. The rehearsal dinner started @ 6.30 and ran until 9pm, followed by drinks and movies until around 1130pm–it was a full day. The morning of the wedding (saturday) the ladies went out together for waffles before getting ready. The Sunday following the Bride’s mother held a large brunch at her house for the majority of the guests who had attended — again, something I missed as the brunch started at 1130am & I had to leave @ 12pm to travel.
It was a whole weekend dedicated to the bride and groom basically, and while I know they were disappointed I couldn’t make it to every.single.event. I am pretty sure they understood my situation (at least I hope they did because i haven’t heard any complaints directly).
Again though, this is pretty much the norm here as far as I can tell.