Post # 1
Why hello bees!
I found this board because I can admit I have an engagement ring obsession. Every since my SO and I casually realized we want to get married, I have been browsing rings, and now we’re actually shopping around in stores, too. I am loving it! so fun!
So I am trying hard to decide what kind of e-ring I want. I obviously want it to be amazing and stunning. A more unique ring would most suit my style and personality, but I also think classic rings are gorgeous. The type of ring I normally wear are huge rocks and some chunky swirly silver. I am drawn to a unique big ring in a different type of stone (but def in the clear/white vicinity..ie, moonstone, white topaz, sapphire, opal if were only harder..), maybe with some more glittery stones added in the mix, or maybe all glittery stones in an uncommon way (like pic below, for ex).
At the same time, you only get one e-ring, and if the ring just looks like a ‘RHR’ I could always just buy it as that! I want the e-ring to be more special than my usual rings, and I have nothing against sparkly diamondy rocks either! Since I learned about moissanite I’m like star struck literally lol! But something about having a traditional e-ring makes me wonder, is this really the ring for ME? I think a skinny band, decent sized solitaire is so gorgeous too tho!
I guess need to see more examples of what I like. My personal/life style is kinda hippy and alternative, but I’ve got a cleaned up look (lol, i’m like makeup and mocs haha. turquoise makeup. hahah) So if that was your style, would you want to go with it for your e-ring or take the chance to have something very classic? Hmm… thanks for listening bee hive! 🙂
Here’s a gratuitous photo of a ring I like!
Post # 3
I’d say go for something a BIT more engagement-y, because later in life you might wonder what you were thinking with a ring that is so different. AND just like you said, you can always get that ring as a RHR!! However, you don’t have to have like, the most typical round solitaire if you feel you want something more unique. There are lots of rings here on the bee that are different, yet still have that engagement ring feel to them.
Post # 4
You know your tastes better than anyone, but my 2 cents is that if it’s too edgy and out there, there’s a decent chance you’ll get bored with it after a few years. Solitaires are great because they’re functional, classic, and if you find them too dull, you can always reset them down the line. Another point: you said your fashion jewelery tends to be more of the hippy/out there style, so why get an engagement ring that looks a lot like everything else you own?
Post # 5
I’d say go somewhat classic since you’re right… you’ll have one chance to get a traditional e-ring. You could always do something a little bit different… but still have that traditional look to it.
Post # 6
I am fairly traditional and usually prefer more traditional, symmetrical e-rings. However, that ring you posted is absolutely GORGEOUS!!!
I think if that’s the style you truly want, you should get it. (And, if you ever wanted to add a traditional, center diamond to that ring, you likely could easily have it redesigned as a cluster around a larger, center stone.)
Post # 7
thanks for the feedback! all good points!!
Post # 8
@chillinchillin: I am exactly like you!!! Ring obsessed and I’m 5 years into it! (Search my threads I dare you lol) AND I have a quirky personality and love unique rings but in the end I chose classic and traditional. Mainly because I get bored very easily and I’ve noticed when I try too hard to be different (which I am) it doesn’t work out. Plus I need to have a wedding band. My promise ring is similar to the one you posted (which is beautiful btw) and it drove me crazy not to have a wedding band with it after a while. But that’s just me. In the end it will be your ring so get what you love!!
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Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Are you and your SO the kind of people who are sentimental and develop an emotional attachment to an object? If so, just make sure it’s really something you will love for a lifetime because you’ll never want to give it up. But if you don’t develop the emotional attachment, you could always go with whatever floats your boat now and change it down the line when you tire of it.
Post # 11
The ring you posted is absolutely beautiful, however I would save the quirky/unusual styles for RHRs and go with something a little more simple and classic for an e-ring. Your fashion sense and taste will evolve over the course of a lifetime. Chances are, the quirky ring might keep you happy for the next five or 10 years, but 40 years from now? It’s kind of hard to see that far into the future. When you choose something simple and timeless, it goes with everything.
Here is an analogy that might help you clarify your thoughts. If you were painting your livingroom the color of your choice — and you could only pick one color that you had to live with for the rest of your life — would you go with a quirky, artsy, wild color or a neutral? IMO a neutral would take you the distance…. through the years you could dress it up or down by adding different art work, furniture, and accessories in different colors.
IMO classic, simple, timeless e-ring styles are like neutrals –they go with everything and can be dressed up or down.
Good luck with your decision making process! I hope you find something that you love!
Post # 12
I prefer classic styles for myself, but based on what you’re saying, I totally think you should go for something unique. Why get something that doesn’t feel like you?
Post # 13
I really surprised myself…I ended up liking the most boring style out there-round brilliant solitaire. But you know what, it’s because it looked amazing on my finger and it’s so neutral that it goes with everything. I ended up with white gold but yellow gold would also have been okay with me.
I love non-traditional engagement rings and drool over them when they are posted here (all those Edelweiss rings made me super envious) but square shapes made my hands look kind of squat and square…I am finger size 5, small hands but they just did not look that pretty. My 1 ct round diamond solitaire looks lovely. I will not be wearing any additional bands.
My sister has a 1.5 heart solitaire and it looked amazing on her because she has both long and slim fingers (size 4) and elongated artist hands. I have slim fingers but my hands are very square, small and paw like and a lot of shapes did not seem that flattering. Princess was downright disappointing on me actually.
Post # 14
Sounds like a more traditional ring with a pop of color might be the way to go.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
Go for the unique!!! My ring is a little more unique in that no one else has the same exact one, but it still is somewhat traditional, and I find that it doesn’t match the rest of my jewelry very well, which bothers me! It’s more formal and refined, and the rest of my stuff is really random. I love my ring, but I almost could have gone for something even more unique and “me,” you know?
Post # 16
Get the unique! All I see around where I live are classic Tiffany heads (6 prong, tall solitaire with small base- developed by T. to make diamonds look bigger, not actually from Tiffany’s) and it is such a snooze!