Post # 1
I got a message from a girl on Facebook that I go to school with a little while ago. Earlier in class she asked me about my wedding, and I mentioned that I was getting married at a bed and breakfast. I showed her a picture of the place and she commented on how pretty it was and that was that.
Now, she sent me a message asking for the name of the place and my wedding date so she can be there.
I don’t even really know this girl. She started going to school with me last month, but we’ve never really talked. I had never planned on inviting her to my wedding, but now she’s making plans for herself, her husband and her two kids.
Unfortunately, this isn’t an uncommon thing. Recently, more and more of my classmates have been talking about getting an invitation, and while I wouldn’t mind some of them coming, I don’t want all of them to and I thought it best to not invite anybody because while I am friends with some of them, I want my wedding close friends and family only.
Most everyone understands. Except this girl. I tried telling her it was going to be a small wedding, that we haven’t really decided on the guest list yet and that it was far away, but she’s still pretty adamant.
I know I’m not the only one with this issue, so how do you handle it when people try to invite themselves?
Post # 3
@SouthernGirl: …what hole are these people crawling out of? Never in my life, until the Bee, have I heard stories of people phoning or messaging a bride to say “can I come to your wedding?” much less “where is the place so I can be there?”
Unreal. I would not try to remain graceful if someone so rude as to ask in the first place kept pressing me. I would say “listen: I’ve tried to put this gently, but you’re putting me in a bad position. The guest list has already been made.”
Post # 4
I would just say “I’m flattered you want to come, but the wedding is for family only and we plan to keep it that way.”
Post # 5
@badabing88: I didn’t either. I’ve never heard of this happening to anyone else until I asked about it. I can’t believe the number of people that think it’s perfectly acceptable to just invite themselves and their family to an event for a person they don’t even know. I doubt I’ll be that nice to her if she keeps asking. She already gets on my nerves anyway, and this doesn’t help. I’m also going to have to let a few people know that I’d really appreciate them not bringing the wedding up while we’re in class. Another student got married two weeks ago and apparently half of her class just showed up :/ Yikes.
@prettyinpink11: If she asks again I’ll tell her this. Maybe it will work.