Clean up…. who does that

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
4601 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We were told that we would have to do the clean up ourselves. Usually, some of the family will start cleaning up right after and sometimes the bride and groom will come back to help. Since we aren’t leaving immediately for the honeymoon, FH and I planned to come back to the venue after our “going away” pictures and help. 




Post # 4
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You need to appoint someone to do it, usually someone is your family or your bridal party or something. My mum and sister are in charge of packing up all our stuff, our venue provides a lot of decorations that we will be using and we can just leave that for them to deal with but anything of ours that we want to keep has to be packed up, our venue does a lunch service the next day so everything needs to be cleared for that.

Post # 5
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You need to check whether there’s a cleaning service at your venue. At my son’s forthcoming wedding, we’ve employed cleaners for 2 hours the morning after. They provide the cleaners but it is a service you have to pay extra for or do it yourself.

In our case, we’ll need to take down any extra decorations as well as doing the basic tidying up and that is being carried out by friends and family. We’re already sorted for starting that on the night (the venue closes at 11) and finishing the job in the morning.

You need to check that you can get into your venue the following morning though. Because it is certainly easier to do the job then rather than stay on after 2am. But before you can organise people to help you need to be certain what your venue expects and when they’ll make it available for cleanup.

Post # 6
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I had no one to do it. So, it was really important for me to have a venue where we didn’t have to. One of my bridesmaids has agreed to put all of our presents and centerpieces in her Tahoe, and that’s it. If i were you, i’d see if someone could do that for you maybe as a gift. However, make sure you appoint someone! At my best friends wedding, she had no one appointed, and it ended up being the bride, groom, and bridesmaids half drunk and cleaning up! That was no fun!

Post # 7
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m paying/tipping the chapel caretaker $50 to vacuum after the ceremony. Some of our family friends will take down our floral arrangements and everything else.

My mom, her close friends and FMIL will clean up after the reception. Which means, they take the stuff they want and leave the rest to the venue.

I’ve been lucky in that all of these people volunteered to clean. Maybe you could ask your mom, “I just started thinking about this, but who will help clean after the reception?” That way, she can maybe find other people to do it so she doesn’t have to.

Post # 12
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Kissed_by_lightning:  I will say do NOT leave it for the family/wedding party to take care of unless they’ve already agreed to it. It absolutely ruined a friend’s wedding for me when they left and suddenly the mom was shouting orders for everyone to help pack up. It was a 2 hour drive back to my place with an 8am class the next day (Sunday wedding). I couldn’t leave until after midnight because FI was a GM and required to stay. No one told us about this beforehand. He wasn’t asked to help, he was voluntold to do it after he ran a marathon and we drove 5 hours just to be there in time for the ceremony (literally, he crossed the finish line, we got in the car and took off, arrived half an hour before, just enough time for him to shower ON SITE and get ready). It was awful. I would NEVER do that to my guests. If they volunteer or say that they want to help, then fine, but I’ll be cleaning up with them. I’d rather skip a grand exit than have them do what I’m not willing to. I have nothing nice to say about that wedding anymore. Your party, you clean up or hire someone else to do it.

Post # 13
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@HonoraryNerd:  + 1

It’s as important to arrange who cleans up as it is to arrange when. My son’s wedding is on a Friday in late September. We’ve already got the clean-up crew sorted – like names on a list and car sharing arrangements made.  Everyone who is doing the clean up has willingly volunteered and we’ve scheduled the various other things we have planned that weekend around the need to spend Saturday morning back at the venue. 

You need to arrange your clean up crew well in advance. Don’t assume anyone will be willing to help unless they’ve specifically been asked or they volunteer themselves.

Post # 16
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I personally wouldn’t feel right asking a bridal party member to do it either because you’d be putting them in a situation where they feel awkward saying no, but really NO one wants to clean up at 2am. Especially after they have spent all day and possibly the night before with you exerting energy for your big day. After having been a MOH and BM in the past, I wanted to leave before the bride and groom most times, but stayed all night out of obligation, but by the time the bride and groom left out of the venue I was ready for bed. I’d hire some college kids or something to clean up that night. 

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