Post # 1
being over six months pregnant & working full time, i havent been spending my day off during the week doing all the housekeeping chores i have done in the past. I just havent had the time or the energy! DH also works full time and has a side business as well. We’ve used different cleaning ladies in the past but have never set up a permanent schedule.
we hired a new one right before the holidays that comes biweekly. she cleans everything so well & its so awesome to only have to do the light stuff like picking up things & putting them away, not mopping and scrubbing and dusting…
but my question is, does not doing ALL the household chores make me less of a wife?
LOL. My mother thinks im insane and told me if my husband wanted to hire a cleaning lady i better enjoy it & not complain. Also, i know when baby comes it will definitely help me save my energy for our llittle one. Just wondering if any bees feel the same way or were ever in the same situation.
Post # 3
@GypsyLove: Uhhh yeah, you’re insane. If I had the means to reasonably hire a cleaning person, I would in an absolute heartbeat.
Post # 4
I would never ever hire a cleaning lady ONLY because I am so picky when it comes to cleaning and I have OCD. If I wasn’t and didn’t and had the means to afford a cleaning lady I would though. 🙂 It doeasn’t make you less of anything! You are still 100% a wife and mommy to be. 🙂
Post # 5
I think you are a little crazy. :). But I know how you feel. I feel like because I have an at home business that I should be able to get everything done and not ask for help from my hubby yet that really isn’t possible because I’m still working all day, just at home. Now I’m pregnant too (just less than 20 weeks), and we plan to hire a cleaning lady starting a few months before the baby is born. We are going to try and do just once a month for a deep scrub, which are the things I hate doing the most and never get to. Biweekly would be amazing, but we just don’t want to spend that much! I know that it might take some getting used to for you, but I bet over time those feelings will go away and you will be very happy to have the help!
Post # 6
@GypsyLove: No, I think it’s a good idea if you have the means! But I say that as someone who’s really terrible at chores and cleaning in general. My BF has a cleaning service and I’m so jealous and looking forward to the possibility of taking advantage of that if we get to the point where we move in together lol.
Post # 7
I always felt like a good wife was just a good team player. If your helping your family in one way or another, you’re a good wife.
Post # 8
@GypsyLove: You would be suprised how much a cleaning lady helps, in small ways and how not as expensive you think it is.
Before I met my SO I was single with one child, working full time. I had the cleaning lady come over 2x a month. I mean you could do once a week but take this into consideration.
The first time they or “she” comes, she will do a full cleaning, top to bottom, focusing on your biggest help needers…bathroom, folding laundry whatever.
after that, it’s truley just upkeep for you.
When she comes again, you can say “I need help with a.B.C the most….she will foucs on that and kinda do a spot cleaning upkeep of the bigger things.
It’s a win win situation, and I always tell people if they can spare the $$$$ it’s worth so much more in peace of mind and time.
Post # 9
I work at home, and I would love a cleaning lady! We’ll definitely get one once we can afford it! Even though I work at home, it doesn’t mean I have time to do all the cleaning. I love that I can do laundry during work hours, I mean, how convenient is that, but my BF can’t expect me to do all the household chores just because I work at home. So we tend to do that during the weekend, but we’re both really bad at it.
But, I have to say, if we are to get a cleaning lady, and I work at home, I would feel totally awkward having her around me, while I work. I’m afraid she’d think I’m lazy, even though I am working!
But to answer your question: If you can afford it and appreciate it: Definitely hire a cleaning lady! I mean, why not? You provide her with a chance to work, and it saves you from a lot of work!
Post # 10
Thanks for all the support! I have just been hormonal & crazy!! I definitely am thankful for any help ((:
Post # 11
You’re totally fine. Hell, if we could afford a cleaning lady, I’d get one now because I don’t have time to clean, and my FI tries but isn’t great at it.
Also, that whole “being a good wife” and “being less of a wife” thing is bs. As long as you love your SO and have a happy, healthy relationship, you’re fine. Cooking/cleaning/etc. has nothing to do with that.
Post # 12
I know housewives and stay at home moms that have cleaning lady’s! I’m neither and can’t afford a cleaning lady (I would get one bimonthly if I could) and my husband does a lot of the cleaning with me. Occasionally when I’m exhausted as agitated and he cleans the entire kitchen, that is when I feel like less of a wife. But he always tells me that just because I’m a woman it doesn’t mean that I have to do all the cleaning and cooking since we’re a partnership.
Post # 13
I work from home and have a cleaning lady – before, I would have a hard time doing work because the house was so filthy that all I wanted to do was clean it up.
But yes, I definitely feel like less of a wife because I’m home all day and STILL have to hire someone to help keep the house clean – so you aren’t alone. It doesn’t help that family and friends tell me I’m lazy for doing it…
Post # 14
Less of a wife???! your GROWING A BABY in you!! having a cleaning lady is totally fine!!!
Post # 15
I am pregnant also work full time, and am having trouble keeping up with the housework. I have thought about getting a cleaner but somehow I just can’t do it as I feel it’s not right to pay someone to clean my place..I can’t explain it.
Post # 16
oh my gosh, take advantage of having a cleaning lady! I need one so bad I have been such a disgusting animal lately!