(Closed) Clingy kitty help please!

posted 8 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Hiya!

Your kitty loves her mommy!!  I completely understand.  I have two cats Izzy – who is 2 years old and has always been independent- and Zoey (my profile picture) – who will be two July 15th.  We got Zoey to keep Izzy company while we are out of the house, and as soon as we got Zoey at 12 weeks old she was the clingiest cat; always following me around, sleeping on my head – she would try to nurse by sucking on my earlobes (ew) –  jumping into my arms and everything.  To this day she still follows me around and tries to jump into my arms, BUT as time has progressed she has s-l-o-w-l-y grown more independent.  It may sound cruel but what I did to try to encourage her independence was to only pet her and carry her when I wanted to.  It was so hard to ignore her cries and when she would jump into my arms, I’d give her a second of loving, and then back on the floor she went.  As for the ear sucking everytime she would go for it, I would stand up and walk away and then come back a little bit later and pet her again until she started trying to suck my ears again – it is insane how persistant she was (and still is)!  Now I just get my face cleaned on a daily basis, which is so much better than the ear sucking! 

I guess what I am trying to say is that I love my cats and I give them attention but not when they are demanding it.  I give them the attention when I can and want to, and slowly yet surely she has grown more independent – she still follows me from room to room, but does not freak out when I leave in the mornings now, does not suck my ears and is not constantly demanding attention.   Perhaps that would work with your overly loving cat? 

Maybe when you leave in the morning if your FH is still at home, he could give her some treats to distract her?  We have some of those plastic mice that you put treats into for them to get out and they love to play with those.   

Good luck!!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@MrsPinkPeony: I think it would help, since she’ll have someone else to play with and love on.  Just be sure to introduce them slowly – keep them in separate rooms and whatnot – we kept them in separate rooms while we were at work and then would feed them together – at opposite sides of the kitchen.  My girls did not like each other the first week (lots of hissing), but now they love each other. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

A buddy could definitely help.  It seems like she needs a lot of attention, and having a friend around could give her something else to share her attention with.

I volunteer at a shelter, so I could help you with a few suggestions in terms of matching them up.  Do not not not get a kitten.  Look for a cat similar in age to her.  You can definitely find a cat that’s similar in size to her.  Cats pretty much stop growing after a year, so look for cats 1-3 years old that are similar in size to her.  It will probably be easier than you think — one of my cats is 2 years old and she only weighs 6.5 lbs. 

Definitely read up on separating them, etc. and they will get used to one another.  My girls used to HATE each other and now they are best buds.

Feel free to PM me to discuss further :o)

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